My (F46) soon to be FIL died in December and we're having the memorial service this weekend. I'm getting more and more anxious as it gets closer because I guarantee there will be drama. The SKids (SD26 & SD32) didn't speak to DH for 8 months, abandoned their grandparents (didn't even call grandparents to wish them happy thanksgiving when he was on his deathbed-horrible little witches...) When grandpa died SD26 made up with DH but SD32 still hasn't been heard from. Then she forced our nephew to exclude DH from his 21st birthday which I believe has put the nail in the coffin for a relationship with SD32. SD32 has lied to SD26 about her role in the birthday drama so that's created tension again with the younger one. It never ends but I think DH may have taken the cure in the older one now.

DH's aunt organized the funeral this weekend and invited both skids and BM. (We actually get along w/BM most of the time.) We had notified skids about the funeral but weren't going to expressly encourage them to come because it is not the place for their tantrums. (DH's mom is nuts and dramatic, his family is huge and crazy, and the aunt is pushy-this is going to be a volatile situation and we don't need those two causing trouble! Plus they obviously don't care anything about their grandparents so why don't they just stay away?!?) We thought SD32 wouldn't come but we heard that she may. I think we need to tell BM to tell her to behave and not start anything or not to come-let her deal with her. DH and I have agreed to throw out either skid if they misbehave. It would be hurtful if that had to happen at his father's funeral but I'm glad DH isn't taking their crap any more. I'm going to insist that his pushy aunt not stick her nose in and stir it up this weekend also. (His family is...a lot...and I've taken it upon myself to make demands and require things of them. If any of them don't like it, they can hit the road. I get all the crap, have to put up with the skids and care for the elderly parents and do all the work, so I don't suffer in silence anymore. And his parents have been A LOT! His mother is crazy and has a mean streak-she got nasty with DH once and I threw her out of our house. She doesn't pull that crap anymore. Next will be the skids! That's been the best thing for me was to stand up to DH's family, set boundaries and give orders. Being the 2nd wife and without kids with DH, families tend to treat us like 2nd class citizens. Don't put up with it!)