I need advice?

Can you please help me with this. Thanks.

When i get home from work i hate when sd is there until her moms come back from work and dh leaves her to her house.

Do you think is it better if dh watch her in exs home until she comes home? OR They stay here at us until bm comes get her?

I hate both! I just dont know what to do, i hate it when she makes loud voice, and make dirt in toilet, so sometimes i say i wish she eats and stay in her own home, but i hate it when dh is at exs sit and wait for ex to come home and then leave. Its not his house, so why he should be there?

I don't know which one is better for me? I know the answer might be none! But can you please advice?

Thanks, hug...

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Remind me again, how old is

Remind me again, how old is this child? Isn't she old enough to stay home by herself yet? What time does her mother get home from work?

Hi, she is 9, in october will

Hi, she is 9, in october will be 10.

Last year she stayed alone for a few hours, but Dh says there is no one else left in the building so no neighbour, and workers are there all the time so she is scared! They also need to move from this house soon. Her mom comes at 19:30 20:00 o'clock.

Ideally, he would watch his

Ideally, he would watch his child in his own home until her mom would come to pick her up vs being at his Ex's. But that would also mean he should be making sure she is neat and clean.

What should i do when sd is

What should i do when sd is there? Just keep myself busy? With cleaning? Washing? etc?

If your SAHD husband was

If your SAHD husband was doing his job right, there shouldn't be any cleaning or washing to do Why isn't he doing it?

Hah! When you ask him he says

Hah! When you ask him he says i do all the cleaning! Oh yes you do! he just do the hoover and mop sometimes and thats it. And oh god he thinks he is doing everything at home!

You should just do whatever

You should just do whatever you want really.. read, watch the news.... or clean if that is how you normally occupy yourself. You can go out for a walk.. run an errand.. really anything.. the child is there with her father.. no need for you to really do anything with or for her.

Did you ever

Did you ever get in contact with your parents? I know that it sucks having SD at the house, but that's where she should be rather than at the BM's house while she is working. That's just odd for your DH to bring SD over there especially when he doesn't live there.

I didnt talk to my parents

I didnt talk to my parents about any of these yet. I just cant....

Then at least talk to the

Then at least talk to the people at your local women's shelter. They can help you take that first step towards freedom.

You are right!

Dh should not be there, we had a fight again last night and this morning i told him to not go there anymore, just watch her here at home until her moms come. But i know it will be hard for me. Im like a stranger at my home when she is there like miniwife dirty loud child. I sometimes lock my self up in our bedroom but then dh gets mad. So i think i have to make me busy with cleaning, washing, doing nails, etc...

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Remind me again, how old is

Hi, she is 9, in october will

Ideally, he would watch his

What should i do when sd is

If your SAHD husband was

Hah! When you ask him he says

You should just do whatever

Did you ever

I didnt talk to my parents

Then at least talk to the

You are right!

Why do you care that your

Its not like i'm scared of

But at the other side i like

It's very sad isnt it? that i

I just came home from work,

This man will give me heart

How long have you been

You are here

I need advice?

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