Minor SS started to be violent to Stepmom

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Hello ladies.....

I have a question on behalf of my friend. She has 4 stepkids three above 18 and one 17. The 17th years old SS bothers her by getting fool of her or imitate her ironically . Once, she saw him searching her own closet, when she told him what he searching for , he pretended that he needs a towel as all his towels are dirty. She stopped him to see if he had something in his hands, he twisted her arm and pushes her in the floor

The question is, legally when minors below 18 are harrsing or treat adults in this manner, what are the legal consequences on that minor. How she can proof that to the court?

If SS is 17, you can still

If SS is 17, you can still press charges. He is close enough to adulthood. When he gets physical with you, call the police and file a report. They will at the very least spook him.

Yes call the cops on him. His

Yes call the cops on him. His parents need a wake up call too!

He could be charged...even as

He could be charged...even as a minor. However, when she said she "stopped" him .. did she place her hands on him in a way he could have felt justified to push her away? Like did she try to physically restrain him.. grab at him which made him react like he did?

Obviously, her husband should deal with his son at a minimum.. but before I called the police, I would want to be sure I was completely able to claim I didn't touch the other person first.

Thank you

She told me she stopped him from hid back as she wants if he took anything. Iy is her personal closet in the master bedroom. He doesn't allow her even to touch his phone or bag

She stopped him from his back

She stopped him from his back.. as in she grabbed him to see if he had taken anything? That sounds like she used some force of her own to try to stop him.. he may have just tried to push her away from her contact and she was hurt as incidental to her contact with him.

I am NOT saying he was right in being in her personal closet. I am saying though, that if she touched him first to try to restrain him, it's not that unreasonable that he pushed her away since she acosted him "first".. even if she had a legit reason to know whether he took something.. if she touched him first, then it's not as cut and dried of a situation. It's not like he walked up to her in the kitchen and punched her with no provokation. Her trying to stop him could be viewed as the cause and he didn't necessarily use unreasonable force to escape that situation.

I mean, she grabbed him, he twists and pushes her away.. her arm is twisted in the process and she falls down. I know that stories like this can have a lot of different versions depending on the person telling them. but that is possibly what happened which isn't really the same as assaulting her.

In this case, unless this is a pattern of escalating physical violence from him, I wouldn't involve the police. Obviously, her DH needs to talk with his son and get to the bottom of what he was doing in their personal space.. and the fact that he pushed his wife was uncalled for and he is put on notice that violence in any form isn't how the household operates.

Maybe they need cameras to record things.. at least in the future, there would be some proof. Right now, unless she has clear signs of injury.. and the possibility that she did the first touch/provokation by trying to detain him... I don't think she will get the results from the police she expects..

this is true, my abusive

this is true, my abusive first husband, when I finally did call the police, asked in several different ways, if I touched him first... He grabbed me by my hair and flung me across the room because I was trying to stop him from leaving (he was cheating on me and I was confronting him about it. but no, I did not touch him first, I was standing in the doorway... THATS IT, but they did ask if I had tried to restrain him or push him in any way... and that was the ONLY thing that kept me safe was the fact that I did not lay one hand on him first.

Period. Dot.