Hold your ground. If they called CPS on you once, they could do it again. You don't want to take that risk.

Re-read the answers on your last post - the consensus is you do not need to do this. Why aren't the girls reaching out to their Dad? Why is BM the one pushing this?

DH should be handling his family - if you need to, quit taking their calls or other forms of communication. If DH wants to try and build a relationship with his girls outside of your home, he can do that. No need to involve you or your child.

CPS is a hill to die on.  They call CPS on you, that's it.  They've told lies on you.  Why would you put yourself out there and give them another chance to tell lies on you, to possibly call CPS on you again and get your child taken from you?  The flying monkeys need to be told to butt out. 

As far as the Skids go, they can want in one hand and spit in the other.  Continued lying, disrespect, and especially calling CPS are all deal breakers as far as I'm concerned.  I might be able to get past the lying and disrespect if they apologized, changed their ways, and admitted to everyone that they lied. But calling CPS?  No, that's a hill to die on.  

I can't echo what everyone has said enough, PROTECT YOUR CHILD. To hell what everyone else "wants." What, you're supposed to sacrifice yourself, your child, your peace of mind for two broken teens who will make your life and household hell, guaranteed. No effen way. Block everyone who tries to convince you otherwise.

A parent's primary job as a parent is to protect their young child.  As a good parent you cannot let this happen regardless of the manipulation of you DH's poor choice of a failed family breeding partner or the manipulations of your idiot ILs.

Your SDs have no value because they have pulled their historic shit.  They cannot be trusted.  So have no qualms about maintaining your life and family sans your DH's failed family breeding experiments.  They have not earned a place in your DD's life:

• Cut off all contact with BM. She is nothing to you.
• Do you really think that a 14 yo and a 16 yo are interested in a toddler? No? Nor do I. Look for the ulterior motive.
• Your SDs called CPS on you ... You cannot risk another of these stunts, you can lose your child, you can lose your entire career.
• One of your SDs told your DH to choose her or you ... 

To sum this up - who needs to invite toxic into their life? Bet you don't. So let your DH carry on seeing them, elsewhere. You don't want them in your home ever again. And if anyone tries to convince you taht you should be more loving towards them ... tell that person to bugger off.

I would not let them back into your life.  Although no one called CPS, I stopped seeing SS when BM told cops I am stealing drugs from my patients at work.  I am not going to lose my job and/or my kids because of an adulteress who abandoned her son (but is now mother of the year).  And for my inlaws, they think I should be helping BF pay for his legal/custody woes (HIs freind and mother have already been hinting around).  F*&$ them, not doing that either!!!!  I agree with all the previous posters.

You are under no obligation to speak to, see, or obey BM or his family. You have to do what is right to protect your child. And since they'ved endangered your home life, they are permanently on the "no go, no see, no talk, no visit" list. Block BM, In-laws., SDs, and anyone who tries to intervene for them. If asked why, tell them "At this point we need to protect and give our small child a safe and happy childhood. The lies, false accusations and bullying from SDs and their enablers does not make my child safe. We will not reconsider. If you bring this up again, you will be on the permanent block list as well. As a parent it is my job to keep my child safe from those who have not got her best interests at heart." 

Nope. No way. You have to protect your child. The CPS and the accusations were the final straw. Like others have said, BM should be immediately blocked. Then tune everyone else out. You are the parent and you know what is best for your child not BM, not DH's family, and not SD's. Two bratty teen girls have zero interest in a toddler. BM and SD's are just meddling in on your territory. After the way they behaved no further explanation should be given. Your Dh and you should be on the same in regards to contact with them and stand together on that decision next time someone asks.

We went through the same thing with SD after almost a year no contact. BM texted that SD wanted to talk to her siblings (who she previously said did not count and were nothing to her) we told her no because of how she was acting and treating people. BM got pissed off, accusing us of not letting them "bond". Dh firmly said "my wife and I are the parents and we decide what is best for our children, not you". She then had her trashy BF start harassing Dh over the phone lol. However, Dh stupidly told my MIL. She started in on us. Calling everyday telling us it wasn't right and SD should be allowed to see them whenever she wants. Even if SD didn't want a relationship with us she could atleast see her siblings on her own. Yeah, no.

It will get easier you just have to be firm and make sure your Dh has your back on this as well. Our relationship with his mom was strained for a few months but it was not going to change to appease her. So be prepared for that. I wouldn't trust them or their motives at all. This is YOUR child. I see nothing wrong with the way you are handling it and I think you are just doing what is best for her.

Calling CPS on you?? That would be my hill to die on. DH's youngest daughter accused me (and him) of emotional abuse; I have the email. She's banned from my life and knows it. In fact, DH has advised her to tread carefully. While he can forgive her (and I do, too), the difference is, I don't tolerate lies that can destroy my life. And I will get an attorney if she does it again. She's not as stupid as I thought; been silent since. I haven't seen her in probably 7 years.

My DH sees his kids away from our marital home. Maybe that should be an option for your family. No way would I let those dangerous girls around my toddler.

Divorce playing the poor pity me card, alienating hubby from his daughters, fed them lies that sd's knew were lies but still lapped up as the truth.

you can't put things in the past when certain members have been so vocal about hanging onto the past and causing issues just because they're vindictive a-holes!!

my 2 kids are now 4.5 & almost 6, they have not seen skids since October 2018, no video calls, no meets, no contacts.

my kids are not manipulative pawns for skids. My kids with hubby require stability and a non toxic environment and skids/exwife are all toxic miserable people. They don't get to guilt or gaslight me against my kids not having a relationship with strangers.

any chance of a relationship ended the moment they guilted their dad for marrying me 5.5yrs after the divorce which is 5.5 yrs after bio mum married her affair husband (yeah she was hooking up with him pre my husband separating from her) and guilting their dad for having 2 kids with me. You know because all they think of is hubbys estate and their inheritance.

in your case, any chance of a relationship ended the moment skids lied and involved cps. If bio mum was all about putting differences aside for the sake of the kids, she would have done that during and after the divorce, she chose not to just like the other narcs in the world

Nope. You block BM and DH can begin working on his relationship with the girls outside the home. If there is marked improvement down the road, you can revisit them having contact with your DD, but it would have to be considerable and sustained progress, including them acknowledging what they've done and figuring out why they did it. This is just BM manipulating because she's sick of dealing with the monsters she's created.

Nope.

No, no NO....

If you are wavering, just stop and think of your little daughter....and imagine her being taken off you by CPS. The very thought of that would make me cry if I was you.

Block all your husband's family. Block BM and keep the two ferals blocked. Never ever ever let your H take your daughter to meet the ferals when he visits them outside the home.

You speak of your happy harmonious home life. Don't do anything to disrupt that. 

You know that BM is only "reaching out" because she can't handle the monsters she has created. Don't fall for her manipulative games. 

You must protect your career and your daughter.

Tell your DH to rein in his parents or you'll do it... your way (put the fear of god into him about what you might do) and leave it at that. Let him sweat. 

Just imagine what a sad and empty life she must have for her to have written such hateful stuff. As my grandmother used to say, "she's more to be pitied than scolded. "

Wow, holy cow. Block all of these crazy people and don't look back. 

Im lucky in that MIL and FIL are deceased so no drama there. And SIL's know all about SD22 and her lies and manipulations. Her being toxic is well known to them, weve discussed it all together.

BUT tsome of the cousins have all bought into the disgusting toxicity that is Feral Forger. So I know a little about the hurtfulness that causes. Ive tried this past year to connect and it was mainly about what she could get from me. Ive done her taxes for free and got her about 3k back, gave her money last Christmas 100, gave her bday presents and took her out for lunch. But now she sends me nasty texts "You took away my father hes now just  a sperm donor". etc.

It hurts and hurts some more. Focus on your marriage and bio kiddo.

You are going to have to take action to resolve it all at this point. If you do not, then you are facilitating this situation and your actions of facilitating state clearly that you want it to continue.

Actions speak louder than words.  So, act.

NOW!

The people who need to be let go... are DH's family.

smh

"We are now told one is bi polar and the excuse for the other one is hf autism".

I have to deal with this at work regularly right now. My company pays a COVID benefit for a positive test with a report from a lab.  The policy is clear that a self test does not qualify for the paid benefit.  Yet, I have a number of the younger team members who are all wrapped around the axle on not providing requested information.  They are hell bend that a pic of their positive self test qualifies. Nope.  No lab test, no pay, and .... you will be terminated for violating the attendance policy. Particularly if  you do not have vacation or sick hours to cover your two weeks of non access to the facility per the policy.  

Which everyone has and has signed a form indicating the policy was reviewed with them.  

How hard is it for someone claiming a "condition" to provide documentation so they get paid or... so that family members can participate in their support if they have a Dx of BPD or HFA. Certainly their father should have access to those Dx docs if they are minor children.  If they have reached majority, then he needs to adopt a "Don't tell me, show me" philosophy.  And hold them accountable for their behavior either way it goes.

No proof, no support. Cause... effect. Choice... consequence.