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Jackielynn2000's picture

If your 18 and 19 year stepkids who work full time jobs(one has a good one that makes 50ka year) never acknowledges your birthday, your husband's birthday or their half siblings birthday, would u still send them something? 
we didn't and got reemed out by Mother in law. I didn't reapond because nothing I say will be good enough.
They are so ungrateful and I work hard for my money. I told my dh he can but I'm not but of course i get the wrath for it because I "control him".

ESMOD's picture

Have these kids been brought up and taught to buy gifts for others.. even if it was not with their own money?  If not.. I doubt you will change that dynamic in some big way now that they are flegling adults.

I do think sometimes kids get in that mode where they are always kids with their parents.. even when grown.. so if the expectation from their mom and dad was to be all giving and no recieving.. then I guess.. the ship has sailed on that.

Personally, I would tone down what they get from me.. or better yet.. just let your DH deal with it and concentrate on people that you love.. and of course.. be mindful of teaching your own child the joy of GIVING.. 

 

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Your MIL can go suck rocks. Evil Aniki would make a charitable donation in their name as a gift. 

CLove's picture

So at least you "fulfilled your obligation" and wont get any blow back from anyone.

A 19 year old with that kind of Salary? sign me up!

Jackielynn2000's picture

Yes she graduated early and has an awesome job. Told us how she spent 1000 on her mom and 300 on her boyfriend but gladly accepts money from us(not this year I'm done) but doesn't ever think of us.

Dollbabies's picture

is mind boggling. What actually goes on inside that head?

Thumper's picture

Nope

MorningMia's picture

What Thumper said. Your thinking is on the right track. Stay the course. 

CajunMom's picture

 

Been married 17 years. While acknowledged on his birthday, he's NEVER gotten a gift from one of his kids. Same at Christmas. I must add....his oldest daughter has sent gifts a few times in the past 3 years, mainly for Father's Day. But nothing else.

So, I fully support your decision to not buy anything for them. These are adults and if they can't be respectful and gracious, that is on them. Stand strong.