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Thank you MIL, just feeling DS not part of SS family

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Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Sat, 12/25/2021 - 9:05am

SS spent a week with us and we celebrate christmas with him on 23th. 
I was really anxious about the holidays but things went almost well. 
However, he still badmouth behind our back. This time it was not about DH or me but about DS.
He spent some time at home with BS and BS's nanny when he didn't want to go out with DH. 

During that time, he told DS's nanny to look at how horrible teeth his brother had. She was so shocked that she told me the exact words "don't you see that a bus can drive through his teeth ! This is so ugly ! Come and see !" And then "It looks like he has lost one teeth ahaha". 

The nanny also told me she thinks SS has a problem because he is convinced to be the best in anything. I didn't figured out by myself because i'm not surrounded by child and i thought it was classical for children. But she  was clear : it's not normal, he his convinced to be the best football player, the best monopoly player, the best fortnight gamer, the best ice skater and the best at school. She also told me that he is mean when he looses a game (monopoly for example). 

Finally she explained to me that each time we are not arround him, he doesn't even consider DS. She is conviced he doesn't like him at all. This was a big shock for me because i was sure SS loves BS. He is nice with him when we are arround! 
 

I guess i can thanks my amazing and wonderful MIL, who by the way didn't even bother to give a christmas gift to DS but showed DH the tons of gifts she bought for SS. 
 

Thank you MIL ! 

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Submitted by Winterglow on Sat, 12/25/2021 - 9:13am

"don't you see that a bus can drive through his teeth ! This is so ugly ! Come and see !" And then "It looks like he has lost one teeth ahaha"

If you EVER hear him say anything along these lines again, tell him that it isn't a nice thing to say to anyone especially not a baby. Do not let this go. 

Is your MIL religious at all?

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Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Sat, 12/25/2021 - 10:43am

Hi winterglow ! 
Merry Christmas <3

My MIL is not religious at all ! 
For the teeth, i'm not letting it go... be sure Smile but it's hard to find the right tone

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Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 12/25/2021 - 9:34am

Tell the nanny to correct SS immediately. He's just spreading MIL's poison, he probably does love BS. He doesn't act like a fool around you two because he knows you won't take it. 
 

I wish you could keep SS away from her. She's emotionally abusing him. 

Caroline2b1211's picture

Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Sat, 12/25/2021 - 10:46am

Hi tog redux, 

Merry Christmas ! Yes she already corrected him. She is quite great with kids. 
 

I can't keep SS away from MIL, bit BM loves to send him to her. 

Caroline2b1211's picture

Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Sat, 12/25/2021 - 10:47am

Hi granny D ! And merry Christmas ! 
oh.. poor him. He is only 10. I'm sure he would doing better if he wasn't always in contact with MIL 

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Sat, 12/25/2021 - 11:41am

At least you got it over before the real Christmas.  

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Submitted by shamds on Sat, 12/25/2021 - 12:27pm

All of my skids clearly lack independence and self esteem, they're failures to launch and know they're exact replicas of bat shit crazy bio mum. All talk and showing off but lacks anything special. skids know they have poor manners and behaviour so what they do is try to take digs at my kids or put them down

initially they put on a fake show its all good and they're siblings of the yr despite spending no time together, then anytime inlaws are talki by positive things about my kids, sd's have to always one up peopleand be 1 step better.

for example, I'm Eurasian and mykids are quite fair and my daughter has quite alot of blone and strawberry blonde hair that plenty of people compliment us on, eldest sd who was 23 would say her younger sister (100% brown skinned asian woman) also had blonde hair when young but it gree black (despite having no caucasian genes/relatives in the family), next when my daughter's fair complexion is complimented or her curly hair, eldest sd says youngest sd was the same and herhair became straight and her complexion dark.

my ss would privately when hubby picked him up or sent him to college would like and claim our kids cried all the time (basically painting me as a neglectful mum in order to cover up the vile person he is), my husband always replied with the baby doesn't cry all the time

i got tired of being around them and refused to be at any meets or family events they would be at. Barely 6 months after i disengaged completely, eldest sd chucked some fake story that daddy abandoned them and left them to marry and have 2 kids with me. 
after hubby telling me

and showing me those messages, i made it clear fhat his sd's were never to be around me or my  2 kids who were toddlers

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Submitted by shamds on Sat, 12/25/2021 - 7:19pm

All of my skids clearly lack independence and self esteem, they're failures to launch and know they're exact replicas of bat shit crazy bio mum. All talk and showing off but lacks anything special. skids know they have poor manners and behaviour so what they do is try to take digs at my kids or put them down

initially they put on a fake show its all good and they're siblings of the yr despite spending no time together, then anytime inlaws are talki by positive things about my kids, sd's have to always one up peopleand be 1 step better.

for example, I'm Eurasian and mykids are quite fair and my daughter has quite alot of blone and strawberry blonde hair that plenty of people compliment us on, eldest sd who was 23 would say her younger sister (100% brown skinned asian woman) also had blonde hair when young but it gree black (despite having no caucasian genes/relatives in the family), next when my daughter's fair complexion is complimented or her curly hair, eldest sd says youngest sd was the same and herhair became straight and her complexion dark.

my ss would privately when hubby picked him up or sent him to college would like and claim our kids cried all the time (basically painting me as a neglectful mum in order to cover up the vile person he is), my husband always replied with the baby doesn't cry all the time

i got tired of being around them and refused to be at any meets or family events they would be at. Barely 6 months after i disengaged completely, eldest sd chucked some fake story that daddy abandoned them and left them to marry and have 2 kids with me. 
after hubby telling me

and showing me those messages, i made it clear fhat his sd's were never to be around me or my  2 kids who were toddlers