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Submitted by stepmom92 on Thu, 10/28/2021 - 7:30pm

Hi! So I have 2 stepkids, ages 5 and 8. My stepson (5) wanted to do a tiktok video with me and so I did with him. Should I ask my stepdaughter (8) if she wants to do one also since I did with him? She is at school and I only see her on the weekends. Or should I not ask and wait until she does? I know there is a big age difference between 5 and 8. The only reason why I did with my stepson is because he asked me if I wanted to. 

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Submitted by LittleCloud9 on Thu, 10/28/2021 - 8:35pm

You should run yourself a bath, pour a drink, put some spa music on and just relax hon. You are stressing too much about these little things. 
hugs

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Submitted by stepmom92 on Thu, 10/28/2021 - 9:13pm

That sounds so great right now. So is it okay if I don't ask her? Would you ask her if you were me? 

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Submitted by LittleCloud9 on Thu, 10/28/2021 - 9:25pm

Hon, you're missing the big picture and putting too much stress on yourself. If she asks you go ahead, if it doesn't come up oh well. It's not helpful to teach kids that they must all have exactly the same thing at all times. The world doesn't work like that. Fairness is not the same as being even. Just enjoy playing with each of the kids. Be honest and genuine with your affection for your family. If you can't relax at home where can you? Love your family but love yourself too.

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Submitted by stepmom92 on Fri, 10/29/2021 - 12:12pm

So it's not wrong of me to not ask her? I just didn't want her to feel excluded. She knows about the video.