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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sun, 08/08/2021 - 1:15am

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The court has hired a GAL and he has asked a bunch of questions of me.  He wanted to know my name, what my relationship was with SS (Non existant BTW), if we were engaged and what was our plan for the future, if SS knew about us and how.  He also asked about BF's XG (The one BM ran off) and why they broke up, if SS met her and the dates and duration of the meeting.  This sounds odd to me and concerning, as I am trying to stay out of this custody battle and I feel I keep getting dragged into it.  Is this normal for a GAL to ask?  #WTF

 

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Submitted by Kes on Sun, 08/08/2021 - 1:56am

I imagine the GAL would want to know things pertaining to the welfare of the child.  I agree it does sound a bit odd to be asking about the exGf and dates of meetings etc.  although I can imagine they might want to have a general indication of whether SS had got on well with her.  Personally, if a GAL was asking anything of me that I felt uncomfortable about answering, I would not answer - but that's just me, I'm bolshie that way - it's a perk of being an old harridan. Officialdom can sometimes be unwarrantedly intrusive, but I would just not answer anything I didn't want to, and damn the consequences. 

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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sun, 08/08/2021 - 5:11am

know why either about the ex, unless BM already met him.  She broke them up and told SS/BF that she didn't want SS at that "Bi%%#es" house.  She has also made comments in the past to BF that XGF and I are both wh+res, when she was the one dating a married man while married to my BF....

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Submitted by shamds on Mon, 08/09/2021 - 5:11pm

Married hcgubm who loves to tell everybody that her exhusbands wife is a whore. My husbands ex is the same. 
 

when hubby told me after we were married what she had said when she found out he was dating me and called his eldest sister calling me a half naked white christian whore, i told hubby "i'll be your whore everynight babe, its why you'll never leave me!!" Its a little joke and chuckle we had of crazy bio mum. They're all the same!!

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Submitted by Winterglow on Sun, 08/08/2021 - 5:12am

Is tit possible that the GAL suspects PAS and is looking for information that would confirm it?

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Sun, 08/08/2021 - 7:59am

Yes, this. If the GAL is asking about your relationship as well as BF's other relationship, he may be trying to show a trend that every time BF moves on, BM loses her damn mind and alienates/withholds SS. Clearly, BM has a pattern and you aren't the first "skank" in her eyes to enter the picture. Basically, if BM can't have BF, no one can and maybe that is what the GAL is trying to demonstrate - that it has nothing to do with BM's "fears" of COVID, you being a nurse, you supposedly stealing drugs, etc. 

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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sun, 08/08/2021 - 11:36am

get real interesting, as his xgf broke up with him after an arguement with BM and she told him that she never wanted to deal with BM ever again...

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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sun, 08/08/2021 - 5:18am

I didn't think of that, but it is possible.  

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Submitted by Cookieboom on Sun, 08/08/2021 - 6:50am

Oh yeah that's right!!!

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Submitted by Thumper on Sun, 08/08/2021 - 2:09pm

As much as you want to stay out of the custody stuff,,,you are IN it especially if you are living inside the home.

First, I must presume a soft background check is being done on all persons who are 18 and older living inside the home with ss. 

Next, the questions are not out of the norm. What is your relationship like with kid? Do you have a wedding date. Often times people (not you) fake it by calling bf/bg fiancee just because it sounds stable. Well, prove it.

Questions about your knowledge about x gf are important . What do you know about dad or mom for that matter.

Trust me, the GAL already knows the answers to questions that will make or break the case. A great GAL would have already run police reports, background checks on everyone,  911 calls to the home. Collected current medical on the child and school info, daycare workers questioned..stuff like that.

Lets say ex gf called the police for domestic 5 years ago..the gal wants to know IF YOU know or if you are covering up for bf.

I am sorry about this, I know it may be intrusive. You can ask the GAL...can you explain to me why you find it important to talk to me, and how can I help the most.

((HUGS))) hang in there.

 

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Submitted by MissK03 on Sun, 08/08/2021 - 3:26pm

I don't think background checks are done without consent. I was never asked for a background check. 

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Submitted by MissK03 on Sun, 08/08/2021 - 3:33pm

Our GAL asked similar questions. Do you take medication? Are you in therapy? Do you drink? What are the relationships like? Etc. 

A good GAL will see right through the BS... like ours did.

I would just be yourself. Your BM is crazy and all the stuff with your job I would tell the GAL.. IMO. 

He came to both houses and interviewed the skids at his office. His report was very much for us and gave SO primary.. which we figured he was going to do anyways giving what the kids themselves wanted. 

Good luck! 

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Submitted by MissK03 on Sun, 08/08/2021 - 3:34pm

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 08/08/2021 - 10:54pm

 

I had to put some time on the stand when my DW was fighting the SpermClan's attempt to take custody of my SS.  We married a week before the long delayed court date. The blended family opposition kept delaying the court date in an attempt to drive my DW into just giving them the kid because of the high costs of flying back to SpermLand for repeated court dates that were delayed at the last minute by the SpermClan.

I laughed out loud when their attorney posed  the question "Mr. (Lastname) will you please state your name."  my response.... "You just stated my name."  That poor guy looked like a deer in caught in a spotlight at night.

Their idiot lawyer was hell bent on convincing the Judge that she and I had lived "in sin" before we marred. We never lived together until we married.    The fun part was every time their drooling bottom 10%er of the legal profession idiot lawyer would ask me about our dating and living arrangements prior to our wedding I would ask him to explain his serial statutory rapist client's molestation of a long string of underage girls including the 16yo he married two weeks before the court date so he would not be arrested during the hearing.  The stuttering and stammering from their lawyer was epic and extremely entertaining.  As was sparing with the Judge who repeatedly ruled that I was not a party to the case then would ask me for my financial information.  Nope, not a party to the case, you do not get my income, tax, or investment information.  After I repeatedly refused his demands for the financial information while reminding him that he had ruled that I was not a party to the case, he informed me that if I said another word he would hold me in contempt. So... I did not say another word which was extremely entertaining when he kept demanding that I answer the SpermClan's attorney's questions regarding my income.  Watching the idiot in the stupid Harry Potter robes about stroke out is one of my fondest memories of the 16+ years we lived under my SS's Custody/Visitation/Support order.  

When he gave me the "real" last request for my financial information and I did not say a word he was about to bang his desk with the toddler's Fisher-Price wooden hammer when I tapped the envelope that had been sitting on the corner of his desk the whole time. I had carried it to the stand when they first called me up.

We have never dealt with a GAL.  Only lawyers and the occasional court hearing.