OT - Petty annoyances
So I broke up with homie a few weeks ago now. He did the whole ignoring thing, then started chatting platonically. My thoughts? "great. We're all going to be adults and be able to be friends, or at the very least co workers smoothly"
I took a few days off last week and come back to an email with a work order for the morning I got back that was assigned while I was out, annoying, but alright. The work order says to talk to ex as he talked to the customer and just couldn't help them due to lack of knowledge/experience. I think "we're being civil, this should be easy." So he gives me the information then hits me with "Yeah. I thoguth about giving you a heads up, but I decided it was your problem."
Petty. But I brush it off and do the work order. later that day he appears in my office and vents for a bit, honestly about how much of a dumbass he is in my opinion as his vent went as follows:
- Ex's ex asked about me and so he told her I was "still pregnant" (that all came about becasue when I started dating him she told everyone he had knocked me up and that's why he was with me... I'm not pregnant and have zero desire to be.)
- HIs promo was running up for spectrum (which he's still paying for her) and he doens't understand why she won't get i in her name to get the promo price.
- He was supposed to get the kids for the weekend and she "changed her mind" and took them to her sister's.
I finally cut him off and told him he was being a dumbass letting her control things and paying for her stuff. And he asked how I was. I told him I was stressed with all the web development I'm working on. And he goes "well I'd help" And I tell him no and that it's the one part of work I enjoy. And he hits me with "well you don't always get all the things you like" And basically he's just a little bitch is what I'm gathering.
So. There will be no friendship. And he can go ahead and fork off with his immature bulls***.
In the meantime, this job has been sucking my soul. So I'm currently looking at options and feeling hella underqualified after working at this deadend place for YEARS.
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You had me at Web
In a former life I did web development. LOL. I taught software as a "technical trainer" and that was something I very much enjoyed. Dreamweaver and HTML...
I hope that you can parlay that skill into something that is not soul-sucking, and get the "H" away from EX. Arent you glad that you arent saddled with that anymore!!!!
I honeslty think I make some
I honeslty think I make some VERY poor dating decisions. My sister has been telling me to date my friend since my divorce. Instead I go and date ex 2 for a month and now am dealing with more petty bulls***.
Def a dodged bullet.
Not looking to date. And friend is just a friend. Which my sister doesn't understand.
Hon, don't get pressured into
Hon, don't get pressured into dating by ANYONE. Not friends, family, or even yourself. When you learn how to enjoy your own company, the world becomes a different color. Take a good book or magazine article you want to read, and go for lunch or dinner on your own. Believe me, it's not as strange as you might think. You can walk out as the self-possessed Mystery Woman who doesn't need company.
I like taking myself out :)
I like taking myself out :) I went and saw a movie right before the pandemic on my own and I enjoyed it soooo much.
See????
See????
I've been doing the same thing since I was 15 y/o. Food, movies, going to the bookstore. I will never claim the way I've gone about things is the best way, but being comfortable with my life and surroundings has been comforting. I get to decide who is around me.
Super amazing. I'm debating
Super amazing. I'm debating taking myself to the aquarium this next weekend
Love this
I love sitting in a quiet restaurant enjoying a meal and glass of wine with a book or magazine. I felt a little self concious the first time I did it but after that I did it often during my single years. I still do it from time to time. Its not that uncommon anymore, actually.
What a jackass. PA, you
What a jackass. PA, you continue with being professional and doing your job.... WHILE you look for another one! And woman. Do NOT date another coworker.
Who cares what other people think? You need to do YOU. And you, my dear, are an intelligent, attractive woman who can rock being single. xoxoxo
Learned my lesson. No dating
Learned my lesson. No dating coworkers. Especially snivelling immature ones.
Am looking at new job options currently and hoping I find something that suits me :) I'm going through the "i feel so unqualified" phase. lmao
I know all about that "I feel
I know all about that "I feel so unqualified" stuff. Apply anyway. You never know. The company might be willing to train you!
Always apply, regardless if
Always apply, regardless if you are qualified fully or not. As someone who hires, a job posting is my dream candidate and I know I'm probably not going to find one person with everything in the job posting. So what do I look for? I look for things that I can train on that are missing. I can teach you software, but I can't teach you to be a decent person. So I look for decent people without the software knowledge, let's say, and figure out if they are trainable. Always apply. It's a pain in the butt for me to go through all the resumes, but as a candidate, I never let one qualifier that I couldn't meet be a deal breaker.
If you figure out how to fix your guy picker, let me know!!! haha
THIS!
I've taken this approach & rocked it (=new job!) after reading an article that discussed how men tend to be more confident in applying for jobs than women in situations where they don't have ALL the required experience or qualifications. The point hit home as I tend to be honest & literal, and until then wouldn't apply if I only had SOME of the listed prequals... but as someone who has participated in the process of interviewing/ranking/hiring staff, I knew that many times we chose candidates with less experience but a positive, teachable attitude, even if that meant we had to teach them a few more things. So I modified my approach and started applying for a wider range of opportunities.
That said, networking is also critical. I reached out to a few high-level leaders in my industry who I'd worked with, and their endorsements (via Letters of Recommendation & one personally contacting decision-makers at my now-job) also greatly helped.
LinkedIn made it easy to stay in touch to even be able to connect with those professional contacts.