Long time lurker, first time posting. Glad to have found this place so I can finally see that I'm not nuts, and sometimes you just need some validation.  Met my DH almost 3 years ago. He has 2 daughters 27 and 29 now. I have 3 daughters and 1 son 33,25,22 and 20. My kids do not live with us, cause us any problems mentally or finacially. They all have jobs and are responsible adults. His 2 on the other hand are over the top. To begin with I moved in with him, his 25 y/o daughter also lives there and was/is a mini wife from hell. When we met she had just quit a job making $15 a hr. She felt they were taking advantage of her, I asked who is paying her bills? he answers, Oh she has a rich aunt. Ok I don"t question him about it. Everytime we would go out to eat he had to make sure and text her what she wanted him to bring home to her for dinner. Anytime she wanted to talk to him it had to be in her bedroom with the door closed. She even called him in there one day and was yelling and screaming at him about stuff. he came out with a sick look on his face. he just said she needed to get some stuff out.  well i found her cliff notes in the garbage can the next day it was all about what he is doing for me and not her and how he is ingnoring her and how she tried to commit sucide last week and he didnt even notice that she put a purple streak in her hair. OK? someone has problems!  Things go on, she totally ingnores me no Hi, Bye, kiss my ass nothing EVER. She ends up finding a boyfriend and moves him in without asking or anything....3 months go by and she tells my DH oh sorry how he moved in, it just happened. (He said he's just happy this bf can put up with her crap. she already cheated on him once but Whatever...he's ok with it cause it takes the pressure off him. Doesn't matter what I think at all. Well, we end up buying a retirement home in TN. Must have all bank info for mortgage. Well low and behold DH has been paying all her bills and giving her spending money the entire year she didn't feel like working, I mean it was so easy because he has her on his retirement account and she has her own card. He lied because he knew it wasn't right....hell. she would go to Ulta and spend $200. She spent $1600. in 2 months. Paid for her to go to school twice, books tuition, scrubs everything. well after she passed both classes she decided she didn't want to do that kind of work..more money wasted. Well, she gets a job....they are susposed to be saving money to get their own place. They both have jobs now....well....we can't save money and go to Disney twice a month and stay at resorts for the weekend and blow money like it is going out of style, eating out everyday, amazon packages every day.  beyond redicilious...i complain and complain to DH about it oh he says they are saving money and he wants them to be out also so we can finally live alone for once.  The 29 y/o daughter lives with BIO mom and SF. Bio mom has custody of her (29 y/o son)8 y/o son who is being raised like the 2 manulative,entitled daughters they have already done such a great job with. My DH has to buy the kid a toy every time he sees him, not cheap stuff either xbox games. Everytime we go anywhere DH has to pay for everything. I asked him about it and he says he knows he has to pay to see them but he doesn't care he will do whatever it takes. They treat him like crap! The 27 y/o said she needed a new car when we were buying the house...DH couldnt give her any money towards the car so she pissed of course....gets other family members to put $$ in on her new car.  Now she wants money for a down payment on a place. saying she's not entitled to it or anything but she cannot help that she doesn't get a retirement check or make $20 a hour but he promised her $ for her car and didnt get that. He said he will try to get 2000. for her. ok our finances are separate but still really??? And all this is behind my back. I am to know nothing about it. He lies to me constantly about how much money he gives them and tells me we need to stop eating out so much.  He told them last Christmas to lie to me about how much they got because we agreed on $100. a piece for the kids.....well that was good enough for my kids but not mine...they even told Bio mom his EW they were lying to me about it.  I know all this by snooping at text messages because I am not privy to any information everything is one the down low. Now 25 y/o and bf have land but no trailer guess they are working on that.  And now to my newest delima. They have both told my DH that they don't like me and don't want to be around me. So now he has changed his tune...attacking me verbally..threatening divorce...selling the TN house.  Ok. well we were set to go up there last month for our wedding anniversary. changed my work schedule everything. so 2 days before we are to leave he comes home and verbally attacked me saying they were going to the house in TN and there was nothing I would do about it....I was like wait a minute..we are going and she doesn't want to be around me. he's screaming at me...she is my daughter and she will be there and you to be nice to her. so we went, they went it was all about them, what they wantd to do nothing i wanted to do...once again i was just along for the ride and kept in the dark about all plans. All the while my DH acts like everything is normal and fine.  They were leaving saturday afternoon and we stayed till sunday morning.  He wanted us to go ahead and go to town and let them lock up the house...I said no we will wait. He was pissed but didn't say anything to me. I'm not leaving her there by herself....I already caught her snooping in our bedroom at home and i put a lock on the bedroom door which caused a big stink but too bad..I caught her red handed..(video) my husband doesnt belive me he believes her...he wanted proof. I didn't tell him what I did because he would be mad again. He conviently forgets to lock the door sometimes and always throws it up in my face about the lock.  So no I was not going to leave her at the TN home alone.  Well they left then we leave for town. I guess I had a slight breakdown on the way there. Tears just rolled down my face uncontrollably...he looks at me and doesnt say anything...we go into verizion my phone was broken...well in the store im trying to keep it together but can't i go out of the store boo hoo crying and i mean down on your knees uncontrollable boo hoo crying and i couldn't stop. he comes out about 15 minutes later..still crying and says..is it because you think I dont love you?  OMG!!!! I just said yes...he told me he loved me and i just needed to be nice to his daughters, no joking, no scarams...just be present and smile??  alright....now a month later..I am working on plan B.  How in the hell did I get into this big mess....by not paying attention to all those red flafs that will never go unnoticed ever again.  Meanwhile we are just one big happy family...he thinks. He knows how bad they are and they manulipate hime and are very entitled. He knows they won't let him see GS if he doesn't do what they want. since the trip...to SD 29 hey I have $250 if you need it?? OMG Im loosing my mind. I know this is all over the place. Any suggestions??? please