Since I caused a stir...

First- I love you ladies! I understand CriticalThinker is a girl with some divorce and daddy issues, exactly what I am trying to prevent with my own child.

The therapist meeting went well. She agreed that is looks like an attempt at alienation and it is about money. I agreed with her that no one would want to be in the triangle that my exH is in- trying to keep his wife happy and having to now communicate with me. She agreed that I should stop all communication with SM that is related to visitation, custody or child support.

She is going to reach out to him for a solo session and do a solo session with DD and a session with him and I before full family counseling, which I thought was great.

For now, I just need to tell DD that, where she lives is an adult decision and I am sorry she was put in this situation. I am not sending her to live with her dad right now but I want her to keep seeing her dad often and love him and love her family there too. That I respect both houses and all the parents involved in her life.

She also said that teenagers are the worst and are good at ripping parents hearts out. That in her opinion, it is not in the best interest of my DD to move, in the middle of middle school and while under the care of specialists. Both homes are good, stable and care for both of my bios, however, their lives are here, not in another state with their dad for a full time situation.

This too shall pass. I felt good about the meeting.

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That sounds great! Good

That sounds great! Good therapist.

I would not be apologizing to

I would not be apologizing to your DD for being put in the middle.. you didn't even know there was a middle she was being put in!

It's unfortunate that your dad decided to discuss an adult topic with you before he brought this up with me. As of now, there are no plans for you to change custody and some of the things your dad may have told you might not, in reality, be a possibility... like home schooling. I feel very strongly that kids get a lot out of the in person environment. I don't want you to miss out on the social interractions etc...

You do support her having a good relationship with her dad and his family.. but that doesn't mean that you would agree that changing custody is in her best interest.

I agree with you here. That

I agree with you here. That other chick was absolutely bonkers, Wow, completely out of touch.

You just keep on keeping on,

You just keep on keeping on, JMTB. Your last post got hijacked, but it provided a good giggle and we have your back.

Sounds like you have a solid

Sounds like you have a solid therapist who can help. As for the rest, somebody started early today.

Gee where was I during all

Gee where was I during all this???

Now I have to go LOOK lol

You missed a GREAT manure

You missed a GREAT manure matinee!!!!

JMTB, glad to hear you have a

JMTB, glad to hear you have a therapist who understands about alienation! Wishing you all the best with this because your ex is being a big ol' asshat. *give_rose*

Psst. JMTB. Did you have to

Psst. JMTB. Did you have to flirt with the therapist for her to give that opinion? Shake the ta-tas a bit? ( * ) ( * )

I do have some killer

I do have some killer knockers if I do say so myself! Lmao

Work it, girlfriend!

I just caught up in your

I just caught up in your other blog. WHOAA! Keep on doing you! Haha

Excellent news on a therapist

Excellent news on a therapist. Good luck.

Some schools might be on

Some schools might be on break now and some teens have nothing to do. Or it's someone who knows OP irl and is having some issues with her. That's the only two explanations to these weird posts. Just doesn't make sense.

Old creepy lawyer? I've never met a lawyer who wouldn't charge because he was flirted with. lolHow does one come up with this stuff. But even if someone flirted with a lawyer, who really cares??? Too goofy and juvenile. Ok to disagree but this is clearly too much