I have an 11 year old step child i'll call V who has been dealing with anxiety and depression for over a year. Their mother, L, took them to a gp who immediately prescribed medication. I offered to help L find a good psychiatrist and counselor that worked with the child's insurance since I have a 13 year old son dealing with many of the same issues and was sent straight to a psychologist. L would never take V to a psychiatrist after working with me to find one. L then asked me to look for a counselor for V and I gladly did but again L did not take V to the counselor. And quickly we realized that only after about a month and a half  that The mother was not monitoring Vs medication. L would not watch V take their meds. When V would come over for visits I would count their medication and there were never any pills missing. I brought this up to L several times and was given so many excuses. V even told me they were not taking there meds right. That they often forgot to. At this time my husband was over seas in the navy. WELL fast forward to a month ago my husband's home and L calls us and tells us she is taking V to a psychiatric hospital because she is depressed again. MY husband went with her with the intention of being able to tell the doctor L was not properly giving V their medication and had never taken them to a therapist but L would not allow him to talk to the doctor one on one. V was admitted for a week then released with a post medical plan that involved a psychiatrist and counselor. It has now been 3 weeks since her hospitalization and L has not even called the psychiatrist to set up post therapy. My husband believes he has no rights to his child because he did not meet them until they were 5. We have just found out the mother never filed the custody paperwork. I have talked to him countless times about needing to talk to L about Vs medical needs and the importance of a psychiatrist and counselor. I am at a complete loss for what i have no control over. I have 0 rights. I have spoken to both parents I am close to the bio mom L. I love this child and I'm watching them not be given every opportunity to be in a better place with all the help they can get. And I am very scared the same exact thing will happen. L will stop making sure meds are taken and V will end up back in the hospital.