First Married Valentine’s Day
Hi all, I need to know if I am the only one whol would feel this way. My husband and I have been together for years but just got married 5 months ago. Obviously this Valentine's Day would be our first as a married couple.
His BM bought a house and he told her would would keep them all weekend (as usual) so she can move easier. Fine. When he said that I wasn't even thinking that we already had plans for dinner Saturday night. When I brought it up to him he said ok well we already said we would take them why can't we just go out on Sunday?
a little backstory as when I asked him last month if he could bring them home early so we could go out his first reaction was to argue with me then he said he was wrong and he would bring them home. Then the whole moving thing happened and I understand he didn't realize but I am being crazy here? I always feel like chopped liver. They are 13 and 15 years old not babie anymore. I want to go out on Saturday since we have reservations already. I also work Monday so I would like to relax Sunday with my husband. To be honest o am livid. Like why the hell do they always come first. Always? I can't take it anymore
At 13 and 15, they should be
At 13 and 15, they should be helping their mother move.
Leave them home and go out to dinner anyway, can't they be alone?
True, why aren't they helping
True, why aren't they helping with the move???
Since Sunday is Valentine's
Since Sunday is Valentine's Day, you might have trouble getting a reservation then, so using the one you already have makes a lot more sense. I would make sure your husband understands that this is important to you. Men don't always "get" holidays like Valentine's Day, or even anniversaries. There's no reason a 13 and 15 year old can't be left home alone while you go out. And I can't figure out why their mother would not want their help with the move, either. The last thing my parents would have done if they had a big project like a move was send us kids away - they'd use us as slave labor, lol.
Leave the kids at home and go
Leave the kids at home and go on with your plans like you normally would. Please tell me DH is not trying to include the SKs in your Valentine's Day plans just because they will be there now?
They are lazy
They don't make them do anything. I don't even waste my time trying to help show them responsibility, they can deal with the repercussions of their spawn who are useless. I disgenaged. Currently not speaking to eachother as I know on my husbands mind he thinks I am wrong. He will be ignored until he can man up and treat his wife with respect. If he doesn't he won't have one. I'm done
Sorry. Death by 1000 small
Sorry. Death by 1000 small cuts. When you hit the last one, you definitely know it. Sounds like you are there - I understand! There is zero reason why his teenage kids cannot stay home while you go to dinner. Zero.
Again, why can't they just
Again, why can't they just stay home alone while you go out to dinner?
No idea
I guess his needs and his ex wife's needs are more important than mine. I won't ever forget this.
Please make sure you tell him
Please make sure you tell him that. And make sure he understands that this will NEVER happen again.
So, the precious babies aren
So, the precious babies aren't allowed to be home alone for 2 hours?
Have any single friends? Invite them out to eat and use that reservation.
Unless the kids are special
Unless the kids are special needs, a few hours home alone on the weekend should be fine. Is he afraid to leave his babies unsupervised? FFS at 15 many of us were babysitting for cash, or driving ourselves to fast-food jobs on Saturday nights, or, just generally not being babies who needed sitters!
Seriously. I remember
Seriously. I remember babysitting a newborn at 15. I'm sure this kid can handle his 13-year-old brother for 2 hours.
Take them home
He needs to take them home early to their MOTHER so they can and should be helping her move anyway. I should be able to come home from dinner with my husband get it on and sleep in. I deserve that. Believe me, he will learn from this. This won't happen again I won't tolerate it.
Have you told him that you
Have you told him that you want a romantic dinner and then come home and screw his brains out? If not, you should. Let him know in graphic detail what he COULD have if he didn't have his kids in town.
Many of these Disney dads
Many of these Disney dads seem to prefer their kids to sex, lol.
((HUGS)) I know you are upset
((HUGS)) I know you are upset and I am sorry.
. That was a bs move on both dh and bm's part.
BM knows it's vday weekend.
I would tell dh to make arrangements for his kids because YOU made dinner reservations.
who cares wether they are old
who cares wether they are old enough to stay home alone ,, the last thing you want is to have a romantic evening out and come home to bratty skids. They should be helping move their own shit from Bm's house to the new place. Buy some nice lingerie, hang it in the wardrobe while your husband is watching and just say "oh well too bad for Saturday night isnt going to happen now" shut the door and walk off. let him think about his mistake