Stupidity continues!
Shocking, I know! My DH is still being STUPID! Imagine that! He just couldn't understand why I wasn't amused about the whole "my ex is getting proposed to" story and how I wasn't just as happy as him that she is finally moving on! WTH!?!?! Man he might actually be mentally challenged and I'm not saying that to make fun of people with disabilities. I'm just so wowed by his ignorance.
After telling my DH that IDGAF about BM or the details of her life or her upcoming proposal and bickering some more he provides me with yet another BM update....."well she said yes"....OMG, does he want a divorce? What part of the IDGAF about the details of BM's life did he not understand?!?!
Plus, is he really dumb enough to think that this proposal will keep her from interupting our life non-stop!? I can assure you it will not. She already lives with this bf and has been with him at least 5 years and that hasn't stopped her from trying to stay relevant in our marriage. I am pretty sure the only thing that would keep her from trying to be a part of our lives is the advice I've given idiot husband a billion times.....CUT OFF COMMUNICATION NOT RELATED TO PICK UP/DROP OFF/SCHOOL/EMERGENCY!!!!!! That won't happen though because well he's obviously an idiot! Or possibly if she reproduces with her bf/fiance/whatever and has another super special crotch dropping to ruin another man's life....she is 40 so I doubt that plus that would take away from super special SD and we all know she has to remain on a pedestal above all others!
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Be prepared
for your SD to chatter on and on about BM's wedding details. Disengagement will be your BFF. "thats nice SD", then change the subject or walk away.
Fun times ahead
Oh damn it! You are so right
Oh damn it! You are so right! I'm going to need to develop a hobby that requires me to stay in my room or outside the entire time SD visits from now until the big day!
Oh joy! I hope SD is a PITA about all of it with BM! LOL!
I'd be more inclined to look
I'd be more inclined to look sorry and say "oh dear, how sad... " before walking away. Above all, do not explain!
Is he expecting an invitation
Is he expecting an invitation to the wedding?
Ha, I mean, it is rather
Ha, I mean, it is rather exciting. I'm sure he is so he can ask if I want to go and then he can tell me all about how different their wedding was and where they got married etc./etc. *dash1* I'm pretty pleased about it so I will obviously go...and wear a white dress
AND...
Dont forget the bouquet. A bride isnt complete without it
White Dress
Sacrificial lamb has a story about that. One of my favs of all time with a toxic SD.
Lamby if you read this pls share that one again...its golden LOL
Maybe DH can walk her down
Maybe DH can walk her down the aisle.
Ha! This reminds me of that
Ha! This reminds me of that country song by Garth Brooks about his Ex getting married and showing up to the wedding uninvited to give a toast and celebrate. ahhhhh if only getting married again would contain these beasts and their crazy....
I'm loving all these
I'm loving all these suggestions! Hahaha!
Obviously even if invited (which I doubt would happen) I would definitely not attend. I'm sure I'll hear all the details from SD. SD will probably be her maid of honor or flower girl or something.
I must now find Sacrificial Lamb's wedding story with a toxic SD. I can only imagine!
Another thing I lucked out
Another thing I lucked out with... BM got married last year out of state and didn't tell the skids about the wedding until the day after when she sent them pics. She had been engaged at that point for probably over two years.
Although that really hurt SD by not being a part of her wedding, im glad it was like that. Not that skids would be babbling about wedding plans but, that whole process would have annoyed me.
We were happy BM got married because (I don't think she knows this) she now voided any part of SO's retirement that she was entitled too.
Your DH should tell SD to not talk about what's going on with BM's wedding. I mean seriously, why would you guys care.
Lucky! LOL! I'm sure I'll
Lucky! LOL! I'm sure I'll hear all about BM's wedding with every SD visit until it occurs. I will do my very best to disengage and walk away.
Ha, that is funny! I'm sure she didn't realize that or she wouldn't have went through with marriage. I'm sure if getting remarried somehow affected BM's ability to screw DH over she wouldn't do it.
I agree that my DH should shut down the CONSTANT BM talk that SD spills out every visit but don't you know that would be so damaging to her. It is her mommy and she is 13 and she should be allowed to talk about her mommy if she wants
"Wow so another schmuck is
"Wow so another schmuck is dumb enough to marry her. Oh oops sorry DH I wasn't implying you are a schmuck." Then walk away. Just kidding I got nothing other than just telling him "Honestly DH I don't really care about what BM is doing over in her world, so I would appreciate if you stop sharing this with me."
Ha, I did say to him, "the
Ha, I did say to him, "the only thing that would stop BM from intruding in our personal lives is your communication with her. Or if her fiance is dumb enough to reproduce with her like you, then she will have another man's life to ruin". Harsh but true. I have also told him many times that I don't care about BM and if he wants to continue to be in her business that is his problem not mine. Leave me out of these things! IDC!!!!
DH doesn't shut up about his
DH doesn't shut up about his kids, but he never mentions the exW, ever. I do know that he never proposed to her. He said some offhand remark, and she took that as a proposal. She said yes. He didn't know how to say no.
Took place somewhere real romatic like an IHOP or Cracker Barrel or somewhere like that.
My DH wins the Idiot Prize of the century.
OMG, this is hilarious! I
OMG, this is hilarious! I think our DH's are competing for the Idiot Prize of the century! LOL!
How about "DH, the more you
How about "DH, the more you prattle on about bm, the less I desire and respect you. "
I think I'll try that next.
I think I'll try that next. I mean he already knows that I have no sexual desires towards him right now because the way he acts around SD is a turn off and I just have so much resentment over the way he has handled things. I've told him this and yet it continues. Hence the thought that he might actually really have a super low IQ and not be able to critically think and shut his damn mouth. Really all he has to do is just shut up! LOL!
Headphones, regular away from
Headphones, regular away from the house work outs, mental health break weekend road trips, and hand DH divorce papers to sign with the instructions "If you even think about mentioning your X to me just sign these and hand them over.".
smh
Rags, thank you! I like
Rags, thank you! I like these suggestions. I really do need to have some mental health breaks/workouts. Not just b/c of DH and his total enmeshment in his previous family but also because of COVID. I think the restraints and the uncertainty of this pandemic is growing on me as well.
I think the divorce papers might be neccessary. Telling him that I want a divorce b/c I can't handle his family and his ex life isn't working. The papers will really drive it home though. I did find online here in OH I can get a divorce for like $180 that seems like a great deal. Only catch is both parties have to agree. He is clinging to me like a damn dryer sheet to a towel (best analogy I could come up with, I always get analogies wrong, lol).
I can if no better time to
I can think of no better time to use the "go find your dad" phrase.
I'd also ask DH how he plans on respecting the new guy's role as BM's husband. Suggest he act like BM has acted all these years to you.
I do believe you will have a hard time avoiding hearing about this wedding so come up with some real zingers to say to SD about wedding ideas so she can share them with BM. With any luck, BM will shut SD down.
LOL, yes, daddeeeee can
LOL, yes, daddeeeee can listen to these lovely things b/c he is so happy for them!
OMG, I love this suggestion, he does need to up his game and tell BM how her fiance should be treating SD better than his own children and spending all his money on SD and making sure she has enough gifts and no chores or responsibilities. Also maybe tell BM he is very concerned about her decision to marry him and hope it isn't because she is "knocked up"!
You are correct, there is no way I will avoid the "excitement" about BM and her fiance getting married. I think I will suggest everything about my wedding to SD to tell BM she should do. The colors, decorations, photographer, etc. I think SD should also get to choose the bridesmaid dresses because you know SD is the most important person in all of this!
That's the spirit!
That's the spirit!
Hey, I can be just as passive
Hey, I can be just as passive aggressive as a 13yo SD and her crazy BM, lol! I've seen enough of it!
Oh, I just remembered, I still have some wedding decorations in the garage, I can totally be the nice caring SM and offer them to BM for her big special day ;)