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Submitted by Josie2020 on Wed, 03/18/2020 - 8:49pm

I am the other woman to my boyfriend's daughter. She is always touching, hugging, and caressing him. I brought it up to him. He said he doesn't mind that he has an over affectionate daughter. She touches him like a girlfriend would, not a daughter.  I don't see other 10 year olds acting like that with their parents in public. I told him it makes me uncomfortable and he tells me to grow up. He ignores me if she is around. Been going on 2 years. Don't know if I can continue with this relationship. Unfortunately, I have nowhere else to go. When she is not here every thing is fine. When she is here, everything is about her. I've explained it to him, he tells me to grow up.  I have never been a jealous person especially over a child, but my feelings are real and I trust my gut. There is nothing inappropriate with their touches but I have never seen so much affection between a father and daughter. Any advice please??? It drives me crazy everyday. I hide in my room so I don't have to watch it, he doesn't even notice

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NarcissisticSkids's picture

Submitted by NarcissisticSkids on Wed, 03/18/2020 - 9:13pm

Get out- I guarantee this.will.never.get.better. If you want to feel this way for the next 25 years, stick around-

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Submitted by Survivingstephell on Wed, 03/18/2020 - 9:13pm

You have a mini wife situation. Plenty on here about that. You are not crazy. He is sick in encouraging this behavior, it will cripple her as she grows up.  Someone could call the authorities on him.  Have you showed him with video what it looks like to outsiders? How perverted  the whole thing is?  
This  is on him totally. Epic parenting failure. 

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Submitted by Kes on Thu, 03/19/2020 - 1:40am

You are putting yourself in a weak position with your statement " Unfortunately, I have nowhere else to go."  Really - this is not true - we are all adults, we have resources - we are not helpless children.  You managed your life before this man was around and will manage it after he is gone.   SD is a mini-wife - your BF is totally OK with this and it will never change - cut him loose. 

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Thu, 03/19/2020 - 2:29am

Like the WIND!!

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Submitted by Left out mama on Thu, 03/19/2020 - 10:12am

Run as fast as you can. 
franky I would never want to touch a man who had this kind of physical relationship with a daughter. It's creepy as hell. Run

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Submitted by Merry on Thu, 03/19/2020 - 10:43am

Many of us here have been in that situation. I know I was. But my DH recognized it and made changes, and that's the difference. I wouldn't want to be with somebody who dismissed my feelings so easily. That's not love.

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Submitted by Harry on Thu, 03/19/2020 - 1:58pm

SD isn't leaving, SO is not changing.  You have to do what you have to do