Toxic Families
Been reading a lot of the blogs on her with regard to toxic step children and mother-in-laws and so on........
If you are at your wits end and nothing you have tried has really worked, my advice to you is get the hell out while you still have your sanity!! it isnt going to change no matter what you do - I promise life will get better after an inital period of greeving and upset. It will - ive been there and done it am I'm starting to feel back in control of my life and much more stable mood and health wise.
Im not missing the toxic behaviour (and yes it still continues in my ex partners life, if not worse). I would add that I do feel lonely from time to time, but that is no excuse to stay in a toxic orintated relationship no matter how much you love your partner! You just have to re-adjust , find yourself again and eventually find someone new (but dont rush into this through loneliness).
Keep busy, go out, try not to stay in too much and keep people around you, people that love you and help you.
Please feel free to comment on my post and I will try to respond to your questions and how I delt with what I have gone through 
Take care xx
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I agree 100%. Glad that you
I agree 100%. Glad that you removed yourself from whatever toxicity you were dealing with and are on a path to healing and finding yourself again. I think most people in these dynamics become so occupied trying to fix the situation with no effort from the other spouse/partner that they end up wasting years of their life not realizing they deserve better. Once they step out of that dysfunction some will see their true potential and self worth.
Much love and strength to you in this wonderful new journey!
Well I wasted three years of
Well I wasted three years of my life and it didn't change. It got worse! I tried everything to make things better and fix things. Nothing worked. Her family was just so toxic and controlling her that it was time to give up
the future does not bode well for her and I feel deeply sorry for her 
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Nothing is going to change
Because the adults causing the problem are not going to change. The problem will always be there. Just in different forms
100% right!!
100% right!!
Hi afy65
Thanks for directing me here.
My head is all over the place with what to do. You obviosuly read my post about the adult SS of 30yo still not finding his way into the real world and living at home. I'm not defending him, but the situation he finds himself in is that because he has no money, he can't afford to move out. This is what frustrates me, because If he made more of an effort when he was younger, he wouldn't be in this situation. I always sound like a broken record...
Then if you sound like a
Then if you sound like a broken record. What does that tell you matey? Nothing is changing and it will continue! Dont worry about your age. I would get out now if you can. You will realise after a while that you are happier. I'm 55 this June and I've done it!
Good for you!!! I promise you
Good for you!!! I promise you that it will get better and you will heal. Wishing you the best. {{{HUGS}}}