Here comes the Bridezilla

Hi,

First a summary: Married for 17 years, SD is 27. We were close initally but after years of indulgent guilt driven parenting by my DH and a great job of parental alienation by BM, SD is your typical toxic, narcisstic, manipulative drama queen that we all know or know of. She and I tolerate each other at family gatherings but barely speak. I have included her at get togethers at our home for DH's sake: holiday dinners, etc. Again, she barely speaks to me and forget about thanking me for hosting the get together.

Okay, so now she has a serious BF, they are moving in together and talking marriage. I know that she wants and expects a big wedding and will expect DH to foot the bill. She forgets that DH and I both work and all expenses are joint. We can afford the wedding.

I know that she will not invite me to the wedding, I could force the issue with DH but I wouldn't really want to go. Fat chance on my DH standing up for me on his own and saying that he won't pay unless I'm invited.

Question to all of you - is this worth the battle since I wouldn't want to go anyway? Am I just being the stubborn B***h?

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I wouldn't foot the bill if not invited

And I plan to go to evil SDs wedding if/when she has one even if I hate every minute of it because my husband and I will not let them seperate us and I feel that no one should extend an invitation without inviting the spouse.

"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"

Good point

I hadn't thought about the seperation and of couse, that is part of SD's game. Maybe the new BF will get a clue and run for it while he still can!

Glynne

I totally agree. If you're

I totally agree. If you're not invited and aren't going to be drinking the alchy, don't pay for it. You should, at the very least, get a big piece of cake out of it. BTW, I have an engagement ring and a wedding dress up for sale.

To every thing there is a season.

LOL

Ana,
Do you really think Bridezilla would have a 2nd hand dress or ring?!
It's going to be first class and big cash all the way for her! Maybe I should jump out of the cake - now that would be funny...and a little SCARY.

Glynne

I never got married, so the

I never got married, so the dress is brand new. It's not even altered. I only wore the ring for a year and a half and it's a NICE ring. If she didn't know, it wouldn't matter.

To every thing there is a season.

I'd starting talking to Dh now

He should let SD know if she hits him up to pay for the wedding, then he should let her know ahead of time that he/you will only pay if both of you are invited. If that's a problem, she can pay for her own. You can always just show up. What are they going to do, escort you out???

"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"

Tell him up front

Abigal,

You're right - I'd like to avoid this altogether but that is not the answer. Best to deal with it now and let him know where I stand and where he needs to be. Of course, I'll be back to being the bad guy but I'm used to that by now.

Glynne