How to deal with Evil Stepdaughter
:jawdrop: I am at my wits end and really have no clue what to do anymore......this is my first post so bare with me, but any input would be great.
Okay so here goes the back story....my husband had 3 children and was awarded custody of all of them when they were very young...because there mom stayed in jail and on drugs. 2 boys 7 and 8(who are mine as far as I am concerned) and a daughter 16 who is nothing but pure evil.
I know that may sound harsh, but she really is. She was okay until we got married, how dare you was her response. She would corner me when her dad wasn't around and tell me it was her turn now. She stole things from me, she tried to get me in trouble with CPS by telling them I tied her to a chair, she would come and sit by her dad and the couch and start rubbing on his arm, look at me and grin (he would finally tell her to stop and go on). If I went to the bathroom she would run into our room (like some crazy other woman). She threatened to kill me in my sleep. My daughter was killed in a horrific accident and she comes in and looks at me and says I'm the only daddy's baby now. I tried to get her help and they diagnosed her as Bipolar 1. She never stops though - after she threatened to kill me in my sleep I had to put my foot down and say she had to go or I had to go. It was a huge fight between my husband and I because he had never believed she was doing this and our marriage was almost over. She thought that it was and she pulled her little game in front of him and called me a bitch. I stood up and yelled GD do you finally see (I just couldn't hold it in). He then sent her to live with her mom's family. It has been 2 years since and this child doesn't want to see her dad until it is some kind of holiday, our anniversary, or if she finds out were going out of town for the weekend for some one on one time. Usually it never works he doesn't fall for her game. Now the other day she calls and says shes gonna come to his moms for Thanksgiving (which is where we had planned to go). She doesn't appreciate that I'm gonna be there - ugh I wanna scream. She pulls these little poor me acts and people fall for it. She still sends me these little phsyco emails telling me that he is hers and I will go away...that he is hers and I need to drop dead. Mind you know my husband does not get onto her for this crap, just tells me to ignore her and don't read them. AHHHHH......I've told him many times I don't care if you see her, just keep her away from me and don't ever bring her to our house. Now I either have to take the chance this child will go crazy and try something, deal with her crap all day or not be with my family for Thanksgiving - which I know is what she is wanting. She tells these little evil lies to people and they think I'm just so evil. WHAT DO I DO?
Whew and that's just the brief account of things....am I wrong to hate this child? What do I do?
No you are not wrong. She
No you are not wrong. She started this drama, you are just reacting to it. She does sound like she needs medication. Why has no one put her on any meds? DH's mom is Bi-polar and refuses meds and I won't even let her in the house for longer than 24 hours. Thankfully they live 5 states away now.
I suspect that my SD is bi-polar as well, and DH does as well, but for some reason no one wants to put a 14 year old on meds for it.
Just keep her out of your house and don't be where she is going to be. No matter what, she has threatened your safety. That is a deal breaker for me. If she showed remorse, I would try, but she doesn't seem to show any at all. Stay away from her.
My evil stepdaughter
My husband and I have been together for over 25 years and I knew from time my stepdaughter was Provo about 5 years old I was going to have hell on my hands. She's a manipulative liar who is jealous of any and every one including her own children. When she would come visit on weekends she would throw the biggest fit to sleep with her father I would put myself on floor just to keep from hearing it at times. My husband had spent a lot of his younger days in jail because he was a hard alcoholic and after we had 3 children of our own he made the decision to change his life in which he did. My kids have been fortunate there mother and father have stayed together and been able to offer our kids a family. I have two stepdaughters from my husbands previous marriage one is awesome and the other is pure evil. When she was young she would do and say things to hurt the other children and my husband would always take up for her I think a lot in part because he did spend the time away from her that he did but it was really bad for her the things he would do and I would always tell him y'all are raising a demon child. As she got older she began having children of her own and she would manipulate and teach them terrible things like she wanted them to feel the same unworthiness that she felt in her own life. She has never been a good mom we are now 3 kids later and she doesn't have any of her children but the youngest the father allows her visits which I don't agree with because she's now on drugs and feels like a way to raise your kid is to sit around and cry to them about all the problems she brings on herself and tell them how no one else cares about them when truth is she doesn't care about them. She acts like my husband owes her everything and her mother pays her bills and allows her to live in her home and continue this bad behavior and does nothing about it. She robs them blind she lies about everything and instead of making her a better person people act like oh pitiful her. It's to the point now that I am so upset at my husband for not standing up to her and letting her know he doesn't owe her anything and the ones we are going to look out for are those poor innocent children you have brought into this world and don't give two shits about. My three kids are all grown now and have moved out on there own they have there own place to live and take care of there children and her kids that she can manipulate she sits around and tells them things like I only care about my own grandkids which is so far from truth. I have bent over backwards to help this child I have literally paid car notes, phone bills, paid for things to help her get into rehab for her not to go and do anything to better herself. The latest thing I have dealt with is she asked my husband to fix her car so she starts calling and texting me asking if he had fixed her car yet well truth is my husband is self employed and honestly I do think he worries about her cause we know stories of her falling asleep at wheel he hasn't touched the car so she will text and say I need a job and I can't work without my car blah blah Grant it she never keeps a job and looks for one that don't work her anymore than 20 hours a week but she has probably 20 places to work a block from her home so I just said you know if I wanted a job that bad there are lots of places around you to work I would walk and get me a job because if I could tell dad hey she's done this and got a job is actually trying to better herself and remind you she's 30 years old now she writes me back and says sorry I am not walking anywhere and what kind of parent ask there kid to walk. Are you kidding me like she lets you know she has no plans to better Herself her what so ever and I am over it. She has the youngest child and Who lives now with its father and grandfather as the grandfather believes his son is trying to get off the drugs and do good for kid but he as well is not. Am I wrong for backing off as long as they allow her to be in this kids life and not wanting to get attached to this child after I her gotten attached to the other two
Hi, how did you deal with
Hi, how did you deal with your step daughter. I have a very needy manipulative stepdaughter but she's only 6, I constantly have anxiety on the weekends her father has her, we've only been married to 2 years. I don't know what to do with her, because when I look at her, I want to believe she's a naive little girl dealing with not having her father's full attention. She sneeks into mine and DH's room to listen to our conversation, (Dh told me) and then goes back to her mother's house to tell her and exaggerate everything she hears. I'm not sure how to deal with this and what to make of her behavior, especially because she's only 6. I'm on the verge of walking away from my marriage. I need your advice, please.
My evil stepdaughter
My husband and I have been together for over 25 years and I knew from time my stepdaughter was Provo about 5 years old I was going to have hell on my hands. She's a manipulative liar who is jealous of any and every one including her own children. When she would come visit on weekends she would throw the biggest fit to sleep with her father I would put myself on floor just to keep from hearing it at times. My husband had spent a lot of his younger days in jail because he was a hard alcoholic and after we had 3 children of our own he made the decision to change his life in which he did. My kids have been fortunate there mother and father have stayed together and been able to offer our kids a family. I have two stepdaughters from my husbands previous marriage one is awesome and the other is pure evil. When she was young she would do and say things to hurt the other children and my husband would always take up for her I think a lot in part because he did spend the time away from her that he did but it was really bad for her the things he would do and I would always tell him y'all are raising a demon child. As she got older she began having children of her own and she would manipulate and teach them terrible things like she wanted them to feel the same unworthiness that she felt in her own life. She has never been a good mom we are now 3 kids later and she doesn't have any of her children but the youngest the father allows her visits which I don't agree with because she's now on drugs and feels like a way to raise your kid is to sit around and cry to them about all the problems she brings on herself and tell them how no one else cares about them when truth is she doesn't care about them. She acts like my husband owes her everything and her mother pays her bills and allows her to live in her home and continue this bad behavior and does nothing about it. She robs them blind she lies about everything and instead of making her a better person people act like oh pitiful her. It's to the point now that I am so upset at my husband for not standing up to her and letting her know he doesn't owe her anything and the ones we are going to look out for are those poor innocent children you have brought into this world and don't give two shits about. My three kids are all grown now and have moved out on there own they have there own place to live and take care of there children and her kids that she can manipulate she sits around and tells them things like I only care about my own grandkids which is so far from truth. I have bent over backwards to help this child I have literally paid car notes, phone bills, paid for things to help her get into rehab for her not to go and do anything to better herself. The latest thing I have dealt with is she asked my husband to fix her car so she starts calling and texting me asking if he had fixed her car yet well truth is my husband is self employed and honestly I do think he worries about her cause we know stories of her falling asleep at wheel he hasn't touched the car so she will text and say I need a job and I can't work without my car blah blah Grant it she never keeps a job and looks for one that don't work her anymore than 20 hours a week but she has probably 20 places to work a block from her home so I just said you know if I wanted a job that bad there are lots of places around you to work I would walk and get me a job because if I could tell dad hey she's done this and got a job is actually trying to better herself and remind you she's 30 years old now she writes me back and says sorry I am not walking anywhere and what kind of parent ask there kid to walk. Are you kidding me like she lets you know she has no plans to better Herself her what so ever and I am over it. She has the youngest child and Who lives now with its father and grandfather as the grandfather believes his son is trying to get off the drugs and do good for kid but he as well is not. Am I wrong for backing off as long as they allow her to be in this kids life and not wanting to get attached to this child after I her gotten attached to the other two