Dh is friends on social media with BM's BD (not SD). I will call her Drama Mama.  Lately,  I have seen a few of her posts talking about dead beat dads.  At first, I thought she was posting about her baby's daddy.  She is mad and upset with him because of the fact that he found someone else and moved on YEARS AGO.  Even though she is married with a baby on the way, she still can't get over the anger that she feels for him.  Her child is nothing but a possession to her. She has taken on the role that BM has played with DH for many years.  Baby's daddy pays child support but doesn't drop EVERYTHING (including telling the military that he is NOT going to be deployed because of the fact that Drama Mama needs him to watch the kid) Yeah, she thinks he has control over that.  After all, baby daddy CHOSE the military.  

 Drama Mama is also very wishy-washy she claims to be loyal to DH but she really isn't.  She only uses DH for HER benefit.  She blames me for keeping DH away from SD and herself.  Of course,  I am just the evil vindictive SM. It doesn't have anything to do with me setting up boundaries.  Everyone knows that one should just drop everything and be available 24/7 for these precious kids.

Now getting back to the posts on Facebook.  Drama Mama's last post said. "Deadbeat parents alienate themselves from their children, they chose to walk away from their parental responsibilities.  I didn't alienate your children from you, I didn't have to say a word.  You walked away and put another woman and her children first".  I know, this post isn't about her baby's daddy. He didn't marry a woman that had kids.  I am certain that this post is about DH.  

When DH and I started dating, BM would allow  Drama Mama to come for visitation with SD.   Dh never made plans on the weekends BM  MIGHT ask DH to babysit Drama Queen and have visitation with SD.  He never had a visitation schedule (CO basically stated as agreed upon with BM).  After we became serious, I started having him contact BM before the weekend and sitting up a weekend schedule.  We no longer waited until last minute for visitation.  We stuck with the schedule.  Over time BM stopped allowing  Drama Mama to come over.  I didn't have any control of that and DH couldn't do anything about it either.  I was glad because Drama Mama was doing almost the exact same thing that SD is doing now except SD seems to be taking it to the extreme. 

Drama Mama and SD are pretty tight right now.  SD  has decided that she is no longer talking to DH because DH always sides with BM and calls the cops on her.  Well, that isn't true.  DH only called the cops once when she tried to jump out of a moving car and threatened to go back to the school and beat everyone's a$$.  The game that DH is playing with so-called staying neutral.  It isn't working. I tried to tell him that it wouldn't work.   

I know, SD is running her mouth to Drama Queen.  SD is really using Drama Queen.  When SD and BM are fighting, SD calls Drama Queen.  Drama Queen rushes over to BM's and picks up poor SD because of BM's rules and punishments.  It is SO NOT fair.  BM tried to punish Drama Queen and Drama Queen just didn't like rules.  

I honestly believe that Drama Queen is posting all of these Dead Beat Dad posts for DH.  Well, I guess she doesn't realize that DH doesn't have a clue they are about him.  He thinks she is talking about her baby's daddy. I know, they are about DH and I think it just makes her look childish and shows everyone that she is a BM who is trying to alienate her own child against is farther.