Isn't his kid a teenager? So only a few short years and BM's income will go down by half. And most likely, she will still have to support the kid.

What a fucking bitch!  Doesn't she know that money goes to the KID!

BM in my case stopped working as soon as she (re)married.  (DH and her never married - THANK GOD!).  Her husband was always well off, and is now a millionaire.  She wants for nothing. She gets a paycheck from her husband and my husband while we live paycheck to paycheck to support our family.  What a bitch!  My SS is 18 so fuck her!

Things she got while UNEMPLOYED

Obviously free housing/food/car

Boob job

Lasik

Permanent fake eyelashes

Making herself blonde every few weeks

Spa/Facials, etc

fake tan

Who knows what else.

Well rant away, you are in good company. BM filed last year for CS, and even though its only 347, it STILL chaps me. She is also getting alimony because he was bullied by her father into marrying the cow. They had already had the kids by then, so its not like they NEEDED to get marrried, but oh well, WE are married now. BM just got a hair cut, and Skid is asking DH to take her now too...Im like well, kiddo, we pay child support!

I am counting down the days and month until no more alimony (7 months!) and Munchkin SD13 will be 18 and graduated HS (4 years and 8 months). Toxic Troll BM is non-working and we do not know where she is getting $$$ - either a workmans comp claim, or her teachers retirement...so any day now I just see her asking/demanding more $$$

North Korea was getting plastic surgery regularly and $5000 fake boobs.  She too did the monthly botox and fake eye lashes and spray tans and fake nails.  I'd drop off the kids and her front porch would be filled with Amazon prime boxes stacked to the ceiling.  She put in a barn and a round pen and got three horses.  They had one of those (still do) $12,000 Gators and two boats.  They literally had 10 vehicles registered in their name.  She put in all new wood floors and put wood on the ceiling of her home and these metal sheets along the walls to make it look like a barn.  She too would say she just spent $1000 at Sams.   I covered her kids for health insurance.  I paid $630 a month.  This didn't include dental and vision.  Her priorities were so skewed.  No college funds for her kids.   It was just endless spending and expensive vacations.  She went to California, New York City, and a couple of cruises.  

I said the same thing you did.  "Why didn't my mom tell me to just marry a rich man and collect loads of child support cause North Korea has such a better life than me?"   I plugged along at my job climbing the ladder increasing my salary and teaching my own girls that self reliance and making your own money was the key as everything North Korea had was on the back of someone elses earnings.

North Korea would say stupid crap to DD5's dad like, "YOU HAVE TO PAY ME AS LONG AS THE GIRLS LIVE WITH ME!"  She had zero idea that child support ends at 18 in Florida.  I mean zero.  She kept spending and spending and spending.  One child aged out and she took DD5's dad back to court to ask for even more money! Dummy.  Of course she lost and her child support was knocked in half and now SD18 graduated and child support ended altogether back in May.

So last Thursday I took my kids to the movies and afterards SD19 and her girlfriend met us for dinner at Cracker Barrel.  Just in passing she said North Korea cries all the time and all she ever talks about is her $80,000 in credit card debt and how she can't make ends meet and how stressed and worried she is.  She's a hair dresser and owns her salon and cheats on her taxes.  She tells the government she makes zero dollars so she has never put anything at all into the system and neither has her husband as he owns a mechanic shop and he too cheats on his taxes and says he makes no money. I'm 44.  I started my job at 20 and will be making way over six figures now.  I also get 60 percent of my best three years at 30 years worked.  I'm set for retirement.  I have college savings for my kids and everything I have, I earned and is mine and no one can take it away from me.  I really think now that both kids aged out and North Korea 's husband gets all of her anger and borderline personality disorder directed at him that it won't be long before they divorce and everything will be taken away from her.  

so just wait her out.  Child support does end.  Credit card debt does catch up with them.

I remember clearly when DH and I went to the boys' Boy Scout bridging ceremony. BM was a den mom. She told DH he owed the troop $80 for uniforms, patches, books, etc. Mind you, there was zero prior communication about this.

What does BM do not even 15 minutes later? Lift up her den mom shirt IN THE MIDDLE OF THE MEAL LINE to show DH and I her new belly button ring.

Yep. No money for scouts stuff (DH and his parents had paid for everything they didn't earn up to that point), but new bling in her body? Absolutely.

SD is 17, DH and I have been together for almost 16 years. He gave BM hundreds of thousands from the sale of his previous house and also paid maintenance for BM until she remarried. Maintenance agreement for SD is CS till 18 or end of first full time degree course. She hasn’t got the grades for university so we are crossing fingers and toes that CS will actually end at 18. Wouldn’t surprise me if BM figures out a way to get her on some course that she can pass as a degree course.

BM hasn’t worked ever, she remarried and we always thought her new husband was well off and keeping her. After some drama with SD recently DH told her he has to work hard and long hours to support her and our other children. She was oblivious to the fact DH gives BM anything! BM then hit the roof for telling her. I now think she’s been using the maintenance money for herself! 

Either she’s racking up the debt (in credit or payday loans) or she’s got someone else paying for it. 

My DH’s ex would take out online payday loans in his name (without his knowledge). Now she’s got a live-in boyfriend/man friend who we think pays for stuff. She also has her 23 year old son still living with her and based on what SD said, sounds like he’s paying for SD’s phone. Or at least his name is on the account. BM has this way of racking up debt but never in her name. Her credit score must be great!

That lazy arse bio mum won’t manipulate the dad into more money. My hubbys exwife has used sd23.5 to guilt daddy into indefinitely paying cs to her because she and mum pay for sd 14.5 ongoing expenses. 

Newsflash bio mum hasn’t worked a day in her life since 25.5 years ago. Whatever she pays towards sd’s expenses are solely from what portion of hubbys court ordered child support. The courts stipulated this cs as reasonable for basic expenses since the girls live in a home hubby owns so no rent and they eat cheap budget food so very minimal expenses. 

Bio mum has made it that sd14.5 is the centre of hubbys universe like her expenses are way more than my 2 toddlers. Now nappies, baby wipes, formula and groceries to cook healthy nutritious food for our whole family is nowhere close to what 2 sd’s and bio mum claim they need indefinitely. 

Lets not forget she cleared out hubbys private bank acct during the divorce by somehow hacking the online login details and tried to steal more and was sitting on over a million pre divorce but i guess she’s almost down to zero.

We know her ammo.. A year before she knows her marriage will end she is busy tying up loose ends and getting her affairs in order which means milk and steal as much money as possible and go batshit crazy during the divorce and try get even more or max out credit cards...

That lazy arse bio mum won’t manipulate the dad into more money. My hubbys exwife has used sd23.5 to guilt daddy into indefinitely paying cs to her because she and mum pay for sd 14.5 ongoing expenses. 

Newsflash bio mum hasn’t worked a day in her life since 25.5 years ago. Whatever she pays towards sd’s expenses are solely from what portion of hubbys court ordered child support. The courts stipulated this cs as reasonable for basic expenses since the girls live in a home hubby owns so no rent and they eat cheap budget food so very minimal expenses. 

Bio mum has made it that sd14.5 is the centre of hubbys universe like her expenses are way more than my 2 toddlers. Now nappies, baby wipes, formula and groceries to cook healthy nutritious food for our whole family is nowhere close to what 2 sd’s and bio mum claim they need indefinitely. 

Lets not forget she cleared out hubbys private bank acct during the divorce by somehow hacking the online login details and tried to steal more and was sitting on over a million pre divorce but i guess she’s almost down to zero.

We know her ammo.. A year before she knows her marriage will end she is busy tying up loose ends and getting her affairs in order which means milk and steal as much money as possible and go batshit crazy during the divorce and try get even more or max out credit cards...

since current hubby is a police officer and ex hubby is rich because he rose up the corporate ladder significantly after divorcing her, she figured it worthwhile to milk exhubby for all its worth.

its frustrating that some of these bio mums want all the financial benefits like they were married except they aren’t to their ex anymore. Like not getting a job and support your children. Just lay it solely on exhubby

so how is it a mum of a 23.5 & 14.5 yr old who don’t live with her as of 3.5 yrs ago because she managed to push them out of home because of her imaginary “can’t walk illness” has been fine the past few years but can’t get a job but me a mum of 2 toddlers started studying for my degree fulltime this year with a 3.5 & 2 yr old??

no doubt when i finish my degree and me and my hubby are more financially well off because we were not lazy bums like sd’s and bio mum, those 3 will lay the guilt trip on me, hubby and our 2 kids... yawn this is boring old news playing the poor pity me card