Disney Dadee and no respect
The more time passes the more I realize how much of a Disney Dad DH is.
So Tuesday night we tell SD she can have one of the mini cheesecakes we made. And that afterwards she needed to go shower. SD sat at the table just kind of waving her spoon at the cheesecake and not really eating it.
So I asked her nicely, "are you not going to eat it?" She shook her head and said no. Then SD proceeded to get up and start crying for no reason. Still trying to be patient as can be, I'm like "why are you crying?"
She's still blubbering saying she didn't like the cheesecake and that she's going to go shower.
So I ask her to let me take out the Bobby pins and elastics from her hair. And she just stands on the stairs blubbering and crying. So I walked away and told DH to go deal with it.
At this point she is still crying. And then also starts screaming. Again, for no apparent reason. DH continues to try to reason with her and asks her why she's acting that way. She claims it's because she's still really hungry! Which at almost 7, I dont think being hungry warrants crying and screaming like a mini psychopath.
So DH tells her to go shower and that afterwards he'll make her a sandwich and maybe give her a little bit of a different cake. Still crying. Won't go up to shower. He tells her he is going to count to 5 and if she doesn't calm down, no cake.
He's counting all while she is screaming at him that he is not letting her count down. DH of course reaches 5. SD screams some more at him and he sends her to go shower and DH goes outside. SD stomps upstairs. Water doesn't turn on.
It literally becomes her bedtime and she still isnt in the shower. So what does DH do? Oh he tells her to just get in her pajamas and that he is going to wake her up early the next day.
DH makes her a ham sandwich AND puts cake on her plate. SD of course took maybe one bite of her sandwich and ate cake and said she was full. All while she didn't get put to bed until almost an hour past her bedtime.
And then this morning? SD comes barreling into our room. And she goes ahead and helps herself to DH's phone and takes it with her to the living room to play with it.
Ugh.
Sorry this was so long.
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He needs a parenting class on
He needs a parenting class on why children need discipline and structure and that children are not your friends, but your child to guide and teach. Blech!
Kid is playing him.
Unless you get your DH parenting class and or IC your life is going to be he**. She will be running the home. She is now
You betcha
The skids would come to DH as soon as dishes were done saying they were hungry and could they have a snack, after pushing their food around their plate and eating almost nothing. DH would break out the ice cream because they had already eaten and this could be dessert. It took me a long time to get DH to acknowledge that they loaded up on milk and a little dinner and were playing him. I’d offer them fruit after dinner and they’d say no. Duh. Wait for dad.
And showering? Been there. Kid turned on the water and just sat in the bathroom on his phone for ten minutes. Too dumb to realize that no towel, the same clothes, and dry hair would give it away. But nothing happened other than a talk that ended with but, but, but I want to make sure you know I love you (meaning: I want to make sure you still love me).
Im sorry you’re going through this, too. It’s crazy making. And she’s not gonna stop if no one stops her.
I feel guilty but a part of
I feel guilty but a part of me is starting to feel that it wouldn't be so bad if BM won 50/50...
Giving me
flashbacks here. Chef used to "parent" the same way
UGH!!!
SD
has L.O.B.
lack
of
belt
You know, before SD I did
You know, before SD I did think spanking or the belt was good.
But I'm thinking sometimes especially disrespectful behavior warrants a spanking.
Honestly, I would have
Honestly, I would have grabbed her and inserted her into the shower for a "cool down". You turn the water to warm but don't wait for a warm up. Kid goes in, water goes on.
My sister was one for dramatics, my parents did this to her when she would have fits like you are describing. My son was a temper fit thrower as a 3-4 yr old. They weren't little fits, they were crazy (which if you met him now you would never believe that he was like that)- I did the same thing. We always just called them "cool downs". The kid warms up quickly, it is just a shock to be in the shower, fully dressed and cold water turned on them.
He's counting all while she
He's counting all while she is screaming at him that he is not letting her count down.
So she stomps upstairs doesn't shower and your H doesn't give her consequences? She got her way which is why she'll continue to cry and throw tantrums knowing he will give in. He needed to literally go upstairs with her and make her shower. No sandwich and no cake and if she pulled that BS again she's going straight to bed until she understands that throwing tantrums will get her NO WHERE.
Your H enabling this behavior is setting the tone for what the future holds for you all....
That's fucking ridiculous. No
That's fucking ridiculous. No wonder she acts like such a brat, because she's been taught by her father that's the way to get what she wants.
You are all correct. This
You are all correct. This behavior will never end until he puts a stop to it. In fact, I am sure It will continue to escalate.
On the bright side, she leaves today to Bm's until Sunday night! Hurray.