Two recent incidents with DH came up during my session. And from those two incidents and DHs reactions the therapist asked if he came from a high conflict household, that his responses and behaviors are like someone who grew up with a lot of conflict and criticism. Apparently a side comment I made about him not remembering much about his childhood also factored into the query.

I said I didn't think so as his family seems very nice but I don't know them all that well and I haven't been around them for long periods of time so I may be seeing their public face. But what the therapist said got me thinking. I looked up some stuff and many of the "signs of adults who had a high conflict childhood" fit DH. It's an interesting angle.