How do you tell if someone is repressing memories?
I swear DH has some sort of childhood issue(s) that he isn't willing to examine. I don't pry but while chatting about things we get into areas about childhood and anything below about junior year in high school gets really vague. And he gets weirdly flat and quiet though I don't think he sees it.
If I recommend therapy, not even for a childhood thing for him, but just as a "sometimes when you run out of ideas on how to handle things" alternative, he gets really defensive and shuts down.
And I don't think I'm searching correctly since my search phrases are long. My own therapist thinks there's repressed things with DH but since I have no other info, there's nothing more we can consider.
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In a lot of dysfunctional
In a lot of dysfunctional families, it goes back generations. The dysfunction in these DH's pasts (BM/skids) isn't usually all one-sided due to a crqzy BM, though the DH's represented here will try to say it is. All of us got to this site due to someone's issues. Idk how you uncover repressed memories, though. Maybe he remembers but doesn't want to talk about it?
Yeah, I know there's dysfunction
on BMs side. I do think he remembers and won't talk about it. That's why I'm wondering because we seem to circle something, he hears the ice crack, and he backs away.