SS grumble. I need attitude change
I need to change my attitude and give this young woman a chance.... but I'm still sitting here rolling my eyes and mumbling.
SS called last minute (aka yesterday) to announce he and his new GF are going to swing up and stop by for a visit the day after Christmas. I should be glad he's taking time out to come see Dad, right? Nope. All I can do is sit here and think "oh jolly joy joy, here comes yet another instant GF who will be long gone by the next time SS comes up to visit.
He's going to SGS's state first for Christmas Day and then coming on up here. His new GF is 25 years younger than he is, has a baby 15mo and they have been dating a whopping five weeks. Ok. This is GF number gazillion (he's also had wives, lost count, no, I'm being a butt).
Why keep dragging all these women up here? Dh and I would love to have him come, but we'd prefer it to be occasionally just him. Why isn't this young mother staying back home doing the Santa Claus thing with her young baby? What mother dumps her baby off on her mother and runs off traveling for Christmas for three days with her brand new BF. An old goat one at that.
I don't care who SS dates, lives with and/or marries. It's his life and usually doesn't affect me or my home. But he'll park himself and this new GF for 8 to ten hours (yes, hours) doing nothing but drinking coffee, telling us all about her, her baby... and DH and I are suppose to sit, listen and act interested and excited for them *gag gag barf*
I'm sending home with SS his great-grandfather's desk (an old family piece) that DH and I are ready to pass down, so there's that. Another item gone giving me more space. I'll put a big pot of homemade vegetable beef soup on the stove (which I don't particularly want to get up and make but it won't hurt me)... but I just can't shake my p*ssy attitude towards the visit. *sigh*
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First of all, I had no idea
First of all, I had no idea you or your DH were old enough to have a SS/DS who could legally have a GF 25 YEARS YOUNGER than himself. That shocked me more than anything.
Secondly, does SS have money? Rockin' body? Lifetime supply of Viagra? I struggle with finding men 10 years older than me attractive (aside from movie stars, but they aren't real), so the idea of sleeping with someone old enough to be my father makes my stomach turn. No offense to anyone who likes an age gap, but I just can't see the appeal as the younger woman unless there is some serious something else.
Third, I don't think you need to change your attitude. Just change the game. Print out a bunch of pictures of SS with all his old wives and GFs and put them around the house. When the poor dear asks who all these women are, say "oh, that was his GF Heather...or was it Hannah; maybe it was Haley - my old mind can't keep up with SS anymore."
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I'm 59 and DH 69. We spread the kids out . He had SS, I had my ODS and we had three together. Our youngest will be 19yrs old end of this month. Yeah, I'm old. SS is almost 52. Yes, I was a young SM and also a young mother. My ODS is 41. We've been married for almost 39 years now.
I do have a box upstairs I call the dead GF box. Tons of photos of all the ex-GFs and some wives I have but few pics of just SS.... every photo has to have the latest GF. And no, SS is no real catch. But he's does have decent job with retirement benefits. He's ex marine and fancies himself a Harley kind of guy.
Frankly I think this GF may be a mid-life crisis. 25yrs! WTF. That or he's ran out of women closer to his age who will date him.
ETA.... my silly typo.
Wait, your DH had SS when he
Wait, your DH had SS when he was 7? Now we see where SS gets it from.
LOL, see how rattled I am. No
LOL, see how rattled I am. No, DH is 69. He's ten years older than I am. Typo there, sorry.
I can see how it's tiresome
I can see how it's tiresome to treat each new girlfriend politely and pleasantly, all while doing a mental calculation on how long this one will be around. Does your DH ever say anything to him about the string of women? Or has he just given up on him at this point? I suppose you can't really parent a 52-year-old, though my mother would certainly say something to one of us if we did this.