It made me cry, but I understand.  We actually did have Cps involved.  They told us to pursue court.  They told us to get them in counseling.  That was in 2014.  Then it was their report which we couldn't get that allowed the pedophile near the kids.  It said that while there was concern that the youngest SS had been sodomized there was no physical proof because he didn't tell us until three days after we had him back from her extended parent time.  It also said that because the other SS who witnessed and reported said he saw it happen through a house window and because they couldn't locate a window it must be a fabrication.  Therapist told us at the time that kids watching traumatic events happening to them or others can see it on a tV screen or through a window because of mental protection mechanisms.  BM waited four years (telling us and the courts that they broke up, they were engaged, whatever fit the current court atmosphere) and then had them tell a counselor that she was taking them to without informing us or our participation that I!! I was the one who told them that BM boyfriend was a bad man.  That he thought her boyfriend was great, but that then I told him all of this stuff about him trying to have sex with a nine year old girl.  I have never felt so frustrated, devestated, and betrayed.  For the record, I and DH obtained the criminal charges against said boyfriend two years after the allegations were made, and had a physical copy at the house, and because the eleven year old snoops for BM he found the paperwork three years after the allegations made by the four year old and because BM assured the courts and  everyone that her and her sex offender registry Bf were over, when he asked me if what he saw on the charges was true I said yes buddy, and explained the difference between a sting operation and someone's word against someone else.  Her BF was part of a sting and had other charges.  The youngest SS wouldn't say anything to the counselor and she used both of those things to say it was some sort of set up.  The fact that at the time the court appointed GAL said there was no coercion or the fact that they described in unbelievable detail a sexual assault, and that the report said that while no physical evidence was found (or looked for) his statements and subsequent behavior issues couldn't  allow abuse to be ruled out was inconsequential to a court full of men looking at this Mom HELL bent on being with this man.  Moms don't put their kids in harms way.  He must really be innocent is how they see it.    Why was she so determined to be with this man?  "Because he is an upstanding business man who earns a good living, and owns a house."  After he was given rights to be near the kids in therapeutic settings, I found out he doesn't own his business or his house his parents do.  When I let this slip to DH in front of SS (on accident he was supposed to be sleeping not outside our bedroom door yet again spying)  BM decided that relationship was over.  LOL!  Now we are on move in boyfriend/paycheck #5  and he has military benefits and is quite a bit older than her.  I don't feel CPS in Utah or the PD is going to do much for us either.  In Utah, she would have to be caught on camera lighting meth for them and then taking money and watching while they were sodomized to have any real threat of loss of custody, and even that is stretching it, because the minute she did rehab or something she'd be right back in their lives.  

SS age 11 has stolen for her and for himself since age 5.  She encourages the behavior because they are minors and if the get caught she pretends to chastise them.  He is also extremely manipulative, cunning, and cruel.  The opposite side of that is the side I have tried to nurture.  It took ages to teach him any kind of empathy, but it is a rarely seen in him.  He is utterly cruel most days.  A teacher praised him helping a disabled child up who had fallen, at recess and then I get told by his sister that he was the one that knocked them down in the first place.  SS8 steals as well now and has stabbed classmates with pens and pencils while BM was with him.  She does nothing.  I hate their mean natures because I know where that use and abuse attitude was learned.  I am starting to realize that Nature May have far more to do with a child's behavior than nurture.  They are her miniature male mirror images.  It's so sad.