Just giving an update after a very busy few weeks. I have left my rented accommodation and I am now firmly established in my new place and...I love it!!! It is even better than I thought it would be- so many, many things are falling into place I haven't dared to process it all- in fact I haven't had any time to think about anything other than sorting things on my to do list!

It seems very weird when I do, (hardly ever,) think about my old life with TheX and his horrible children. Yes, looking back I now just think- did I really do that? And I thought I coudn't do this? I bought a house, moved twice, kept working, took care of my health, didn't succumb to stress or anxiety, and I haven't even touched my savings!

Forgive me for just blowing my own trumpet just now but I have done this without any help from any man apart from a couple of brothers and brothers-in-law and that was just for tools and heavy lifting. 

I wish I could invite you all over to Fairlyland to come stay with me and have a big party!

To all you struggling in relationships where you feel under-valued, unloved and almost driven insane with gas-lighting and self-doubt I say, it really doesn't have to be like this. You can make those changes that will get you away from those toxic landscapes and find peace. I did it when I thought it was impossible,and it hasn't been easy, but I made it and I have not, and now never will, look back...now it is all about a future free of a cowardly door-mat of a man and his downright screwed up kids. Yippppeeeeetttty dooo dahhh!