That his kids and mother is not getting a vacation that payed by your family.  Your main problem is this is not going to go away.  He wants a happy family even though his wife is not going to be happy.   Can’t you do a vacation by yourself and another vacation at another time with SK. ? He own you a vacation by yourselfs. I am sure he went on vacation with BM before the kids.  You should get the same 

I am sorry you are being treated like that TankH21. I have been reading your blogs and sad to hear he's choosing this way.

I asked him why he would want to be with someone who hates his kids and mother and someone that he cannot trust.  Why are you so determined to stay in this relationship.

Why can’t he just go on his own with skids and MIL?

Because Tank's family was paying for it.

sounds like maybe your DH didn’t fess up to MIl that the trip was cancelled and instead of spilling the beans he is trying to bully and guilt you into moving forward with the trip.   If it was my money paying for the trip and my DH invited the skids or anyone without my knowledge or agreement, I would cancel too.   At this point your DH is really pushing his luck.  Plan a trip for yourself...tell him his becAuse has him uninvited also.  And he can take the skids and mil on their own trip if he’s so concerned about it.  Maybe mil will offer to pay 

sounds like maybe your DH didn’t fess up to MIl that the trip was cancelled and instead of spilling the beans he is trying to bully and guilt you into moving forward with the trip.   If it was my money paying for the trip and my DH invited the skids or anyone without my knowledge or agreement, I would cancel too.   At this point your DH is really pushing his luck.  Plan a trip for yourself...tell him he is uninvited also.  And he can take the skids and mil on their own trip if he’s so concerned about it.  Maybe mil will offer to pay 

Wait, he told his mother about the trip that you were planning for just the two of you (and then had to cancel)? Why would he even tell her?

I find it funny that she "still" wants to go, when you had not invited her in the first place. Your husband can take her, then.

I think honestly he wants me to be the bad guy and he doesn't have the balls to tell me it's over and he is trying to drive to say it's over. 

Even if you are the one to say, "it's over", it doesn't make you the bad guy. Of course, that won't stop him from being the victim.

Tank~Glad you are remaining firm with not going to the beach. If MIL wants to go so bad she can take the step kids and have a great time. I would have canceled it also, afterall how could you consider that a vacation with those pain in the @sses around.....

Do what makes you happy!

If my husband accused me of cheating, I would wonder about him myself!

I am at the point that I see several other Steps -not really wanting to go on a vacation with skids. SAme now with Munchkin SD12. She complains about everything, thinks nothing of telling you how bored she is, and then doesnt seem very appreciative after all is said and done.

Last weekend, we took a 2 hour drive to get to a festival that I was really excited about. Got everyone out of the house and then hear complaints when we got there that "she didnt get anything!" Well do you have money? No? Well I brought enough for me to get some stuff I liked and then paid for gas and some refreshments. So, pouts and attitude. And "well you got something and I only got this!!!!"

I have bought her plenty along the years...plenty. Her father is always buying stuff for her so she now expects it. Just so many reasons that I dont really want to take SD out anywhere or go anywhere as a family.

Doesnt sound like fun to hang out with this for more than a day away. And that was just a small taste.