Just when I think ToxicTroll can't go lower, she does
I keep saying this! But wow.
I heard from DH last night that a friend of ToxicTroll's (she got him his job in his current field but he is not actuall friends with her any longer and is not invited to anything), saw a Facebook post from her, saying that "she won her child support case and now will win her workers comp case, whoot whoot! congratulations to me!!!"
So, basically she has been BRAGGING about making us pay her almost 24 grand over the coming 5 years and 8 months as well as over 5 grand annual income for the next year and a half. And that plus her Workmans comp claim for hitting her head 3 years ago. What a b!tch. I have never felt such loathing and revulsion and hatred for anyone in my life.
Money wont change her toxic personality. Money wont find her a good man who has his stuff together and is respectful and loving and kind. Money wont make her more attractive, money wont change her love of dishonesty, cheating and trashy ways. You can dress a pig up in a silk suit (sorry pigs!) but they will still be a pig.
I asked DH to ask for screenshot. We will have to track things more carefully than we have been.
My friend yesterday mentioned how she has a friend (man/father) whos baby momma ex wife took him to court 4 times in one year, and somehow she knew about his raises, and each time he got a raise, she took him to court again to up his child support (and he is in California and 50/50 custody). Turns out the CHILDREN, each time he got a raise, or anything, she would find out from THEM, and get this information from his own children. Pretty low!
So word to us stepparents - just when you think that they cannot go lower, they will and they do.
Another word - the less the stepkids know the better! That way, they cannot accidentally tell the warring parents anything to be used against you and spouse. The kids absolutely do not need to know how much money you make, or what you are buying or what you own, and how much it costs. That new boat? Oh we are storing it for a friend! And in exchange we get to use it. That car that went missing? Oh we didnt sell it, we have traded it for services rendered. Our friend took it. the house? Oh we are still renting. Honestly, I now feel like I have to be dishonest because others are dishonest and its bringing out a conniving side of myself that I do not like. So that I can figure out how to out-game someone who knows how to "game the system".
DH always tells me ToxicTroll is really stupid. I know she never graduated 11th grade, but she is surrounded by people who know how to game the system, and she may not be smart in some ways, but she is learning, now, and I feel we must really step up OUR game simply to protect ourself.
Its all just a game, isnt it?
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If I read this right she "won
If I read this right she "won" roughly $350/ month right? I mean, while it sucks for you and DH it isn't like she hit some jackpot where she can live off of that alone. Honestly that is pretty low child support. I am not too sure what she is celebrating.
I find her disgusting as a human but mostly confusing as well. For many BM's, kids just become paychecks. Sad but true.
untaxable income
isnt that like actually getting 400? Yeah, I understand its not much, but its enough to hurt a bit, plus the stupid alimony of 300. And she will get paid while she isnt working, and has a retirement account and now the stupid wokmans comp thing.
You know what though? Its not actually the money, its the bragging how she "got us". She "got what she deserves because she GAVE BIRTH". You kow what? She has the days off, but when her kid needs help, Munchkin calls ME. She said "because my mom never picks up her phone or answers my texts". So sad. Yes, she is USING her own child as mommas little money maker, and bragging about it on facebook.
BM is constantly pumping the skids for info
To the point that we don't let them know where either of us works, let alone how much money we make.
Fortunately, they're dumb and don't ask questions, so it's fairly easy, but it's exhausting to remember not to say anything we shouldn't.
Munchkin SD12
Is ALWAYS asking questions and shes pretty smart and intuitive. I have to now start making up backstories and keeping them straight.
My friend helped me come up with some. I will need to write all this stuff down. It IS exhausting!!!!
Why are you making stories up
Why are you making stories up? It is not kid business.... since when did it become ok for kids to ask how much a parent makes? Seriously it's none of their business and should be told that.
SD9 tried to play the
SD9 tried to play the guessing game on how much I made once. I told her I wasn't playing. She asked if it was more than $100 a month, I said yup. And she looked at me in awe, told me I should buy a new home with that. LMAO
I laughed and told her not to ask again. Good times.
Let her current employer that
Let her current employer that shes gonna try and get workers comp money see that.
Large payout on WC will be thoughly investigated to be proved true or not... maybe she won't be as lucky as she thinks
It would be nice if someone
It would be nice if someone could grab that post in a screenshot for the employer!
3 years
Or more, shes been "working" on this claim with drs. Yes, I would love love love to be able to send screenshot. People have gotten caught in fraudulent claims many times through social media.
Yes, she should not be counting chickens before they hatch, although maybe she got a payout already.
She *may* be getting a
She *may* be getting a smallish weekly payout, but before she gets any kind of big lump sum it WILL be investigated.
(I worked for a private investigative firm for over a decade and we did work on cases like this. PI will be looking at her fb.)
so, enough to get by
But not a huge windfall. Do they allow her to continue working or will she also be on some disability program?
I would troll the living
I would troll the living shite out of her. Mention your rich uncle who died and left you everything. Should you put the millions into a lake house, or an offshore account? Hmm...
Stealth mode
I have been on social media with another account, because I have her blocked on my personal accounts. She has 6, yes 6 six different facebook accounts, and keeps creating new ones, supposedly because she forgets her password (or wants to keep certain folks from seeing her posts...I dunno). I cant ask Munchkin because it would arouse suspicion but DH and I went on together through his account, and I showed him her newest (I can tell the difference because she is sideways and cannot figure out how to rotate...and everyone of her devoted followers liked it...) and he was like "wtf!" she could have been spying. I said "yes indeed". Thats why she made comments in her paperwork filing that indicated she knew something about our lives.
So I think that she has been trolling me too, because after calling me a "b" and a "c" via text, she expressly told me that "she knows me better than I think she does..."
And further, she knows enough about security settings to have her timeline not showing to anyone not her friend. So I have been brainstorming ways to get friended so I can see what I need to.
Yeah. I doubt she would know what an offshore account is. Shed respond better if I said I needed a date to Jason Aldean concert in Vegas, and had a bottle of vodka to share.
This is why its so important
This is why its so important you watch what you say around step kids. It's infortunate but that has become our reality. I never answer any fishing attempts or volunteered information for that very reason.
Did it ever occur to them that the parent may be working over time in order to make ends meet? Nope they dont' because its always about them.
This makes me wonder if
This makes me wonder if income thats not taxable nevertheless might hurt TT in other ways. Is she on any type of welfare or low income - based program?
No
Her sister, HomelessTroll is living with her currently, and supposedly giving money. So, she has a little "undisclosed income". Thats all. And Ive read that if she DOES go for any government aid, the father has to pay for that - to reimburse the govt.
It seems like she has won. Let her gloat. We will be happy, she will continue looking for "Mr Goodbar", and get our cash, supposedly so she can go shopping with Munchkin, whom she has never even taken to the grocery store.