Update on Awesome son's childhood friend
His fever has gone down and they will be taking the breathing tube out tomorrow. He's still in ICU. Problem is he doesn't have that much of a will to live seeing he works at a fast food place and still lives with his uber controlling religious cult parents. His older sister ran away and got married just to get away from the cult. The only reason why the parents give her the time of day is because she's given them GRANDchildren that they can cult-i-vise.
The cult highly discourages higher education (I'm a prime example, I was forbidden to go to college) and therefore has a nation of window washers (not that there's anything wrong with being a window washer) as members.
Not sure if there's some sort of agency that can help him get back on his feet, away from his helicoptering cult member parents and the education he needs (he's got the gift of gab and could be at the very least, a GREAT salesperson).
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I am at a loss as to what
I am at a loss as to what cult relgion you could be talking about? Want to give some hints?
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JW
Is he over/under 18? There
Is he over/under 18? There are programs to help young adults who need work training etc... and some even are residential in nature. If he is under 18.. it may be tough since it's a religious type issue and not necessarily abuse.
All I can say is that he probably would benefit from some counseling.. maybe you could take one of the people aside at the hospital and let them knwo confidentially what he is dealing with and that he might benefit from some private counseling.
sadly over 18
he's 32-33
If he is an adult.. then I
If he is an adult.. then I think it's definitely a good idea to suggest that he needs some counseling.
My parents had friends with a kid who kept having these vehicle accidents and in the end.. it was really a semi attempt to take his own life. Now the kid has some permanent disabilities from his last bout with a tree.
I think he might still benefit from both counseling and maybe some job training as well. 30's isn't too old to make a new start. If he has a penchant for sales.. he can always start somewhere like Best Buy etc.. and work his way up. He doesn't have to stay stuck in fast food.
When I met my EXH.. he was driving a truck and computer illiterate. I showed him how to use the computer and he decided he wanted to get into IT. So.. started at a office supply/computer store, took classes and eventually became a Microsoft Certified Engineer. with no college. At one point making well over 100K/year. Unfortunately, he didn't have great people skills so his coworkers found him difficult to deal with. But he has his own tree cutting business now and I think he does fairly well.
Heh heh
Chef had been in construction all his life until he tripped over a customer's phone line that she had strung across the room. He was carrying about 160 lbs of stuff at the time and went down her basement stairs--knocked out cold (this was when he was married to the Girhippo) Of course the Girhippo cashed in on the insurance claim--had all her college debt paid for and her orthodontia.
He got his MCSE and was doing well but then decided to go back to the trades because he "didn't like being cooped up in an office." (TM)
Chef was thinking that this kid was trying to off himself as well because of his life situation. I think he would be perfect for cell phone sales.
He could go to trade school
He could go to trade school or appretincioe program or certificate program at a community college. Not necessarily getting a degree. He could learn a trade and be more than fast food worker. It’s a shame his family is this way. I know JW people and they don’t object their children learning trade/skills and have a profession. Hope he recovers soon
The JW Mantra on education
softened in recent years because it was totally realistic. When I was raised in it, there were two options for women:
1. Housewife (married to another JW of course)
2. Missionary (preferably married to another JW OR Single)
For men raised in JW Land:
1. Janitorial
2. Sales
They often hope that "new recruits" will come in to the flock already having their "worldly" professions under their belt (doctor, lawyer, etc)