Update from stepdaughter from hell!!!
So as I stated before on my previous blog, my stepdaughter is giving false accusations of abuse, sexual abuse etc. We had a meeting with the mom and we came to the conclusion that SD won't be coming to my house anymore. Yesterday, while I was sleeping, mom came frantically to my house, crying, very upset because SD got an implant birth control at my job without mom's concern. SD went to my job as a patient and I couln't break HIPAA. The mom wanted me to commit a felony disclosing SD information to her without SD consent. Bio mom wants nothing to do with me and is blaming me for everything and not making SD take responsibility at all. I really don't care is Bio mom talks to me or not because all she causes is dramma. SD put a clause on her chart denying access to mom. There was nothing I could have done. To make long story short, I told Bio mom I want nothing to do with her daughter and she is not to come near me or my children. My husband is very supportive. I can't continue to allow this to happen! Now mom is coming to my place of employment to cause a scene at my workplace. My coworkers know all the back story and I have support from upper management and they said they will call the police on her if she gets aggresive or tries to do something. Bio mom is extremely aggresive and tends to cause a scene every time she gets mad! I am seriusly regreting getting them an appartment so close to us. We are living in hell right now and there is nothing I can do about it!
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BM needs to take a step back
BM needs to take a step back and really look at the situation for what it is. You have no control over her daughter getting an IUD, whether it was at your work place or somewhere else. Either way this is something she did and its against HIPPA policies to betray that confidence. Stick to NC with BM and if need be get a restraining order and if she shows up at your work place call the police. This will let her know that you want no part of her and you mean business.
We can look at it in a positive light and see that her daughter is taking birth control so to avoid pregnancy. Perhaps if her mother was more approachable her daughter would be able to confide in her so this is something BM needs to reflect on and take steps to remedy that with her daughter.
Exactly my point
The probolem with them, mom included, they never want to take responsibility for their actions. Mom fights with teacher when the kids are doing bad in school. She says is everyone elses problem except for hers! She blames others for how her life turned out! It's always something with her. We never know what to expect with her. If she keeps harassing me I will get a protective order againts her! I really want no part in her life! Oh well, my husband pays all the bills and I was the one who bought those kids everything, for school and everything! Too bad I wont be doing that any more! Anything she needs she can delete my number and contact DAD!
Keep her #
But change the name in your phone contacts to "DON'T ANSWER: BM Drama" because every time she calls or texts, your phone will remind you EXACTLY what to do (and why!).
That's what I do for scam callers. I would never even put BM's # in my phone because she's such a sick, manipulative game-player that I refuse to give her even the OPPORTUNITY of satisfaction of causing me to react (she never had my #, does not deserve it). I know she'd have done that because she got sooooOOo jealous of DH when we got together & came at it from so many angles. She definitely f*cked SS over and just keeps doing the Lucy-from-Peanuts-cartoon move: offer the football (love) but pull it away, every time, so the victim loses their footing (sanity) but keep'em coming back for more of the same.
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With her accusations of
With her accusations of sexual assault, I would be very careful about her being seen in the practice you work at. I could see something where BM states that you got her BC there to cover up abuse in your home.
My coworkers know her
Im being protected by upper management! They have it record where she came by herself and spoke to the provider... There is nothing there that states I took her there. She walked in on her own. She told the whole story to the provider, she is lying now. They are all prepared for everything.
It just feels like you might
It just feels like you might be walking a dangerous road here. What is true and what is not is all perception in a case like this. While your management has you back right now, they haven't been handed a lawsuit yet. All I am saying is get her off you your patient books- send her to another practice and no longer accept her there. Protect yourself.
Yea
Thanks for your advise. My boss also said the same thing. I can't make that decision. Im not the owner of the practice. I wish I could just dismiss her but I cant. Lets hope nothing bad happens. Thanks again.
Welcome to the site and so
Welcome to the site and so sorry to hear about what you are going through currently. I had something similar, many years ago shortly after I started seeing DH, we had NPD BM screaming on the doorstep a few times, and also she told him she had reported him to social services for abuse of his daughters, then aged 5 and 7. Being in that line of work (besides knowing it was rubbish), I advised DH to ring social services and ask them what was going on. When he did, they had never met NPD BM or her daughters, it was all fabricated.
After that, I told DH that I was not prepared EVER to be on my own with his daughters, not even for 10 minutes, and I never, ever have, they are now in their 20s. I was not prepared for some unhinged bint to ruin my life.