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Stepdaughter from hell

mattiefox1's picture

MY STEPDAUGHTER IS PURE EVIL!! I HAVE 3 STEPCHILDREN AND THE RELATIONSHIP WITH MOM HAS NEVER BEEN GREAT BECAUSE SHE ALWAYS ALIENATED THE KIDS FROM US. WE HAVE BENT OVER BACKWARDS FOR THE MOM AND THE CHILDREN FOR OVER 12 YEARS. THE SD WAS TALKING TO DAD ABOUT MOM NEGLECTING THEM AND BEING ABUSIVE TO THEM. WE TOOK BIO MOM TO COURT AND LATER FOUND OUT THAT IT WAS ALL A LIE. WE STIL FOUGHT FOR VISITATION RIGHTS AND WE GOT THEM BUT WITH MOM CONDITIONS. EVERY SINGLE TIME THEY CAME, THERE WAS A LOT OF JEALOUSY, A LOT OF RESENTMENT AND SD WILL ALWAYS PLAY THE VICTIM. WHEN SD WAS 14 SHE HAD AN OLDER BOYFRIEND THAT MOM ALLOWED AND LATER BIT HER IN THE BEHIND BECAUSE SHE CALLED TO ASK IF WE COULD TAKE HER. WE DID. SD WAS MANIPULATIVE, PRETENDING TO BE SICK, PRETENDING TO FAINT AND STARTED ALLEGATING ABUSE FROM US TO MOM. SHE ENDED UP LEAVING BECAUSE IT WAS JUST TOO MUCH. DUE TO NATURAL DISASTER WE HAD TO BRING THEM ALL INCLUDING MOM AND IT HAS BEEN HELL! BECAUSE WE GET THEM EVERYOTHER WEEKEND SHE IS CONSTANTLY TALKING ABOUT MOM ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR WITH OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS, FRIENDS OF THE FAMILY, SCHOOL, ETC. WE HAD A MEETING WITH MOM AND CAME TO THE CONCLUSION STEPDAUGHTER IS A LIAR. SHE ACCUSED PEOPLE OF MOLESTING HER, SHE HAS ACCUSED PEOPLE OF MOLESTING OTHERS. SHE HAS TOLD MOM WE ABUSE HER. ALL SHE DOES IS LIE. SHE HAS GONE TOO FAR. SHE HAS COME TO MY JOB TO DO THINGS MOM DONT WANT HER TO DO BUT BECAUSE OF HIPPAA I CANT SAY NOTHING TO MOM AND THEN SHE GOES TO MOM, TELLS HER WHAT SHE HAS DONE AND THEN SAY I KNEW ABOUT IT. SHE HAS GOTTEN DRUNK AND ACCUSED US OF ALLOWING HER. SHE SAYS THINGS TO MY 12 YEAR OLD, SEXUAL THINGS. SHE ASKS DAD EXPLICIT QUESTIONS. WE ASKED TO STOP AND SHE WENT TO MOM SAYING WE DONT LOVE HER THE WAY SHE IS BECAUSE SHE IS GAY, BISEXUAL, ASEXUAL, ETC BUT SHE HAS SEX. SHE WANTS TO CALL ATTENTION AND EVERYONE IS FED UP WITH HER, EVEN MY HUSBAND. THIS IS GOING TO COST MY MARRIAGE. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! I LIVE IN HELL!!! 

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mattiefox1's picture

I have tried everything to bond with this child. I never treated her any different than I treat my own kids. She just can't feel empathy at all. The sad part is that mom allows her to act like this. This is ok! I don't want to be an awful person and just not aknowledge her at all but I really have no choice now. She is making too many accusations and I am not risking going to jail for her. Mom and Dad had decided that he only will see her outside of my home. I feel bad but it needs to be done.

Siemprematahari's picture

Its not about disliking SD but about self preservation. She's making false accusations and if they are taken seriously things can get bad very quickly. Remove yourself from this and have nothing to do with her in any capacity. Save yourself and your kids because this child needs help. Is your H taking any steps to get her the help she needs? Its tough helping her when she also has a toxic mother that keeps manipulating and showing her bad behavior.

Areyou's picture

She does sound like a stepdaughter from hell. I thought mine was bad. Yours is the devil spawn in the flesh. Don’t allow her back in your house like you have mentioned. Her dad can see her somewhere else. Protect yourself from that evil freak of nature.

notasm3's picture

Write her off. Ban her from your home and your life before her lies totally destroy your life. 

mattiefox1's picture

My husband supports me 100%. He is very dissapointed in her. He says that he will try to see her from far because she accuses him too. We got her help when she lived with us but mom supports her so there is nothing we can do since she feels the kids belong to her 100%. My husband was the one who actually made the decision for me and banned her from our house. My husband is devastated by all this but she is a senior in high school now, she will not change. We will still be picking up the two small children and taking care of them financially but husband is pretty much done with her too. Nobody wants her around.