About 3 weeks ago my and DH discovered a speaker was missing from our house. Things disappearing from this house happens quite frequently and is infuriating. So we have repeatedly asked the kids if they know where the speaker is. Finally, SS16 must have either felt guilty (unlikely) or was pissed at SS13 enough to tell us the truth. SS13 took our speaker to BM's, broke it and they smuggled it back in a duffel bag. Apparently, SS13 has also been smuggling out our PS4 (We allow him to keep it in his room). That everyone in this household and BM"S house are aware he is not allowed to do. SS16 also informed us that BM knows about the PS4 and speaker and told SS16 not to tell because he will get his brother in trouble and will probably get into trouble also. What kind of mom wants there children to steal and destroy people's property and it be ok??

They have been grounded all week because we pulled 1 13 gallon trash bag from underneath SS16's bed (previous blog and total rant) and 2 trash bags full out of SS13's room. This trash was stuffed in every imaginable place and crevice. The amount of work they put into hiding it was 0x the amount if would have take for them to walk their butt to the trash. How we do not have rats and roaches I will never know. No they are not allowed to take food into their room-EVER! They do it in the middle of the night and can finish off a bag chips each in one sitting. Anyway, BM has been coming to get them the moment they wake up to go to BM's to get ready for school starting soon. And keeps them until DH gets off work. Bullshit, neither DH or myself are dumbasses. BM rarely gets her drug addled ass out of bed to do anything but undermine are parenting time. Because video games are just that important! What kind of mom want's there children to voluntarily live in filth and then not let them pay a punishment?

Friday was DD birthday, not her party but we always make a deal on the kids actual bday also. Me and DD3 baked a cake, we had one of the kids favorite meals, then all crowded in me and DH's room to watch music videos. We go in a circle and each pic a song to listen to it's a blast. I thought we had a great night I feel asleep DH dealt with DD3 and laid down with her in her room for awhile. (She is in that I'm Scared stage so me or DH will lay with her while she falls asleep.

I woke up on Saturday assuming everything was A O.K. Apparently not, the boys texted BM to come get them. What she told DH was that the boys were scared. They constantly use this, the boys are scared of me for some reaso. Even though I have never touched them and do not yell at them, yes I talk to them seriously but thats about it. Also, both boys are much larger than me so if they feared a physical attack im sure they could have laid me out pretty quickly??  But I was asleep so that reasoning could not be it. They have said they were scared of DH when he yells so he has stopped yelling. And he hasnt spanked them in years, they are much to big for that? So what where you scare of exactly? Was it too dark outside and you couldn't handle it without your mommy? Or was it the fear of going an entire weekend without your life purpose? Video games?

No, BM you are not only a horrible person but also a disaster as a parent. I fear for these kids future with being raised by you. I think that "fear" the boys have for us is just the feeling of respect. They are not used to being  held accountable so they feel uncomfortable when being punished. That is not fear, that is an entitlement issue you have not only created but cultivated.

DH did not allow them to take anything else out of the house that night. He did return their clothes the next morning. And SS16 and BM had the audacity to ask for SS16 Cellphone back. OMG. She then immediately followed up the request with if not I will get him a new one...well do you BM. Thats a hard no from us.