YSD is 18 Tomorrow!!!

Hey everyone -

Haven't been on here recently. Have had tons of travel and feel incredibly behind at work all the time. Trying not to be too stressed...but helping DH with his business (which we've put SO much money into, recently...really hoping it pays off) while also having a nearly full-time job is starting to take its toll, I think.

However, YSD is 18 this week...and we have one more CS payment to make. That will feel like such a huge relief right when we need it. In addition to the travel and the business stuff, have had weddings (my brother's), birthdays, anniversaries, housewarming parties, people moving, having babies, graduations...tons and tons of family stuff. I love being from a big family but when it all starts to pile up it can get overwhelming. Also have car property taxes due in May and June, going on a brief vacation in June, and added OSD to our car insurance to help her out, which is costing us an additional $150 a month because she has such a poor driving record. Agreed to do that only until November, though.

In the midst of all this, I have managed to tighten up our belts (aka we're eating 90% of our meals at home, which is unusual for us) out of sheer necessity...and have also managed to lose some weight in the process. So, I guess there's an upside to everything :)

How about everyone else. Anything stressing you out, financially or otherwise? Any silver linings or hope on the horizon?

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Yay for you!!!

I'm in a dark place. Having a car issue didn't help matters. I'm thankful that it was a lot cheaper than I anticipated, but I'm sinking deeper and deeper into The Black Hole.

Sorry to hear this, Aniki!

I hate unexpected expenses. They always seem to pop up right when you're feeling on top of your situation again, too.

The kicker is that I was NOT

The kicker is that I was NOT feeling on top of the situation - rather, I was feeling like I was just starting to break even. Now it's back in the hole. So frustrating.

:-/ im so sorry Aniki!

:-/

im so sorry Aniki!

Take of yourself thru all this

Congrats on the last cs payment tho - can't wait for that to happen for SO but he still has years. He just got a court order from the supreme court divorce judge reducing it though - child support enforcement was trying to fight it and said they wouldn't but after some back & forth, its finally being done. SO and I are getting married in Aug but lately SD18 had put a cloud over our joy. We're dealing with that though and moving on from her bullcrap. My company also announced in April that they're closing up nationwide as of July 2nd so that was another thing to deal with. But silver lining is that I'll get a nice severance package. So, there's just good and bad to deal with on a daily basis, huh? I'm focusing on the good cause I'm happier now with my SO than I've been in all the years before I met him. He has baggage from his past but I love him enough and have faith that we'll get through everything and come out stronger. Good luck to you!!!!

To you as well.

Take that severance and use the time to figure out your next move...I know it's stressful. I try to remind myself that it's only money and that we can find/make more if we need to...but it's hard when you're going through a big change.

It seems like whenever we

It seems like whenever we finally pay one debt off, two more pile up. These medical bills just won't stop coming!! The skids have always cost an arm and a leg because Succubus uses the ER like a sniffles clinic, but now we add DH's root canal and DS' visits and we are paying over $500 a month to various hospitals and clinics. That's on top of the $1,100 insurance premiums. We make six figures, but it feels like $50K after health costs. It is so depressing.

Geez.

That would be stressful. Medical bills are out of control...I'm grateful that we've been healthy so far and haven't needed much medical care. That would probably sink us with DH being self-employed with irregular income for so long.

Sounds like things are going

Sounds like things are going great! Congrats

Congratulations.

Hope you can reward yourself. You and DH deserve it. When we went back to court about 3 years ago and the skids were in their middle teens...i thought, "Only 3 or 4 years"...now they're 18 and almost 20 and were still dealing with this CS non-sense and again, now im thinking "its only 3 more years"(potentially)...hopefully, this is it for you...these BMs they never go away- it seems and always wants more $$$. Best of Luck!

My mantra

...was "One more year," but then SS turned 18 and it's unclear he'll even graduate, doesn't have a license, money, etc. DH has shifted from United Front with me to "He's a good kid" total DENIAL that the kid is gonna flail & do everything he can to avoid growing up.

I am less than thrilled with the situation, and bummed at the pain and conflict.

Oh man...that stinks so much.

Oh man...that stinks so much. So glad that hasn’t happened here.

As each kid aged out, BM asked us to continue for a few more months. We did so on OSD bc she turned 18 in November and then graduated a semester early in January...but was just sitting at home that first semester...so even though we technically didn’t have to we continued CS until June when she would have graduated. THAT made me furious...I can’t imagine if she’d drug it out an extra year somehow.

Yikes.My SS is presently a

Yikes.
My SS is presently a failure to launch...there is A LOT of drama that i wont bore with the details. But yes, most parents of skids are in denialville. I am sorry to here about the troubles and your understanding the "One More Year" Phenomena, but I am hoping things get better for us. Good Luck and when the drama starts brewing, StepTalk is definitely the place to vent, air out concerns/frustrations and of course the WWYD scenarios. Best of Luck!

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