In-Laws Vent
DH and I have been married almost 5 years, his parents did NOT approve of him divorcing ex-wife, they do not believe in divorce. Therefore they view his ex as his 'only' legal wife. When they found out I was pregnant with my now 4 yr old son - they told my Dh that they would never view him as 'their' grandson. That his first son with ex is the only one they will acknowledge. They live many states away so it usually isn't a huge problem however SS has been coming over and telling BS what they get him for Christmas - Easter - birthdays etc while BS never gets anything from them. They have relented a bit and we got a christmas box from them this year but BS doesn't get even a birthday card from them. I feel sorry for BS when SS comes and tells him this stuff because BS doesn't understand. Not only that - Mother In Law is on facebook and relays everything to Ex wife that we do or say etc etc. His ex found out when MY Mom passed away through Mother in Law. Ex wife has both of us blocked on facebook but still finds out crap thro the in laws. It drives me crazy. We no longer post on facebook because she uses everything against us in some form or another. They are more loyal to the ex wife than to their own son. How sad is that?
It is really sad and more
It is really sad and more common than you think. My MIL is crazy, so much so that I didnt have to cut her out of my life because her son cut her off first. When I had a miscarriage a few years ago, she was relieved because this way a new baby wouldn't take away from DH's "real kids." Since that comment was made, my DH refuses to even speak to her. So she has formed an alliance with BM and puts her first. It is crazy and sad, but most days I am just glad I dont have to deal with the drama.
Your inlaws sound as bad as my MIL. Its probably best that they arent around your son. Maybe this would be a good time for your DH to teach his son about manners and not bragging to his little brother. Also, if they are stirring up drama on FB, block them. Then the problem is solved.
I take a different tac in my
I take a different tac in my life's execution of this topic. I rub the noses of the toxic blended family opposition in our amazing life. They all wallow in the stench of the their shallow and polluted gene pool while my bride, our son and I live an amazing life. My son is my former SS that asked me to adopt him when he was 22. His mom and I met when he was 15mos old and married the week before he turned 2yo. We raised him together. I am his dad.
While not to the same toxic level as your ILs... my IL clan can Z out in a similar toxic direction. The SpermClan eternally lives in their shallow and polluted gene pool. My ILs just wade in a bit every once in a while.
Read my blogs and you’ll see
Read my blogs and you’ll see that I have a very similar MIL. Just straight-up nasty southern baptist hypocrite. A fake as a $3 bill, backbiting, favorites playing, always the victim, codependent enabler.
Ghost her. You don’t need her. Your child definitely doesn’t need her toxicity.
Block her and all her flying monkeys on all social media. Lockdown your business in case there’s a rat-fink in your “friends”.
Lastly, and like someone else stated, tell your DH that your business is just that - yours. Tell him to keep you and your personal life out of conversations from here on out.
There is no reason for a
There is no reason for a person who doesn’t acknowledge your marriage or your child to be in your life at any level. This is a two way street - if they choose to put up roadblocks on their side well then you can do the same on your side.
Just block them all and go on with your life. Your DH can talk to them as he wishes. As far as the skid bragging about his gifts just tell your child that “those people” are not part of his family (their choice) and not everyone gives presents to just everybody.