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Submitted by tankh21 on Fri, 03/30/2018 - 8:59am

So DH picked up the skids last night. DH and me are in the kitchen talking and all of the sudden OSS comes out. Right in the middle of me talking he says Dad like 5 times. I am like it's rude to interrupt adults when they are talking you need to wait until I am done talking.

He just looks at me with this blank stare. I say well since it's so important for you to interrupt me when I am in the middle of talking by all means go ahead and say what you were going to say but next time wait until adults are done talking. He tells DH that he forgot his xbox could BM bring it by tomorrow during the day.

DH says no we don't want anyone over while we are at work. I wouldn't put it past SS to let BM in our house while we are at work if DH would've told him yes. He tells SS that we will go pick up his xbox after work today and that if he forgets anything again this will be the last time he goes and picks it up for him.

Then I decided to go to bed around 10:00 pm. DH is sound asleep already. YSS is blasting the TV out in the living room. I get out of bed and tell him to turn it down that DH and me have to work tomorrow.

About thirty minutes goes by I wake up and the TV is blasting again. I get up and tell him that he needs to stop being disrespectful and turn the TV down.

Then around midnight I wake up to the TV blasting for a third time. I get up and tell YSS to go to bed and turn the TV off and that if he is disrespectful like this again there will be consequences. I probably should've just woke up DH and told him to deal with it. I am just tired of these disrespectful brats and DH and BM not parenting them.

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Submitted by ProbablyAlready... on Fri, 03/30/2018 - 9:04am

Sometimes telling your DH to take care of something means that they're going to go basiclaly baby their way around the child, so sometimes you just have to handle it yourself. So good job on that!!!

I really wish your DH had backed you when you told him it was rude to interrupt though... Manners are hard to teach as they age, and it takes you and your DH being on the same page to get them to actually learn them.

But personally I think you did good handling it yourself! Made him get the point across, and it took three times, but shows that you're in charge too Smile Plus how your DH handled it prior, I'd be hesitant to think he'd back me up and think he'd sit there doing the same thing as before.

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Fri, 03/30/2018 - 9:23am

OMG, I can't stand when children interupt and adults don't say ANYTHING!  SD does this constantly and SO NEVER seems to notice or see a problem with it.  MIL doesn't ever correct her either!  Drives me crazy!  I always say something if she interupts me.  It is so rude!!!!

I agree with ProbablyAlready if DH isn't calling his kid out on this stuff and you make him do it he will do it in a more gentle, kinder way, at least that is my experience as well.  Good for you for letting the kid know that you won't tolerate it at least!

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Fri, 03/30/2018 - 10:39am

My SO is a wannabe Disney dad that lacks the funds so makes up for it with the coddling I guess...I am working on breaking that though!  I have actually seen some improvement after a few come to Jesus talks with him!  

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Submitted by nengooseus on Fri, 03/30/2018 - 9:50am

DH and I were on the phone with our realtor, I had sent SD up to her room to get ready for bed and to put away towels (that she hadn't put away the last two times she was asked to put them away.  She emptied the boxes and then, even though she knew we were on the phone (speakerphone!), she started yelling for her dad.  I was closer and told her that he was on the phone and she kept talking!  So I finally told her just to hush--and I was mean about it!  LOL

I think that the concept of respectful vs. disrespectful behavior is difficult for these kids to understand.  They're totally self-centered, and they see their parents being totally self-centered, so it doesn't even occur to them to be anything other than fully self-centered.  And when you're only considering your needs, you're not respectful to anyone!

SS has learned--literally had to be taught and it's mechanical and inconsistent, even still--to acknowledge people when they walk in the room or when he walks in.  He has to force himself to say please and thank you.  He's simply *not* expected to do that with his mother, where he is most of the time, and DH, although he has the best of intentions, isn't always consistent about enforcing politeness standards.

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Submitted by tankh21 on Fri, 03/30/2018 - 9:56am

Yeah that is a good point nengooseus. These parents need to be consistent and teach these kids basic skills and proper etiquette. They also need structure as well so they can launch into respectful adults. Which is why I think that we are doing these kids a favor. I wouldn't have got away with half of the crap these kids get away with when I was their age.

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Submitted by Mommy long legs on Sat, 03/31/2018 - 1:42am

That would get me so upset especially after the second time. I don't like being interrupted drink sleep because I have a hard time sleeping as it is sometimes. When my SD used to slam the doors, even one time, I would take off a door knob. So if she ended up turning the TV up after the first time of me telling her to turn it down I would have already removed the TV. I removed her cable box when she would misbehave. So I would suggest next visit remove the TV and explain why and maybe when they're alone at night wishing they would watch TV they would remember why they can't and hopefully not do that again.