My husband lived with her for 10 years and understands her psychosis' lol It is has been a long drawn out battle and he feels that for the best interest of the children not to draw them into it. He sends them letter in care of their grandparents with self addressed pre stamped envelopes - never any replies. Their marriage was a horror story, she always used the kids to keep him from leaving before he eventually did. When they did visit she text him every hour he had them. Then when he returned them home within the hour she was calling asking what we fed them because they were sick. The final straw was when the local child protection service called him as there was a report of abuse on his part. One meeting with him they understood everything and told him the file was closed. That was a year ago and the BM still uses it against him. She tells his family who she talks to on Facebook and their former mutual friends that the file is still open. Whatever. Within one month she had a new boyfriend and the kids were calling him Daddy. Then they moved and he didn't know her address to serve her papers. She has played every game that is imaginable. She definitely has a sociopath disorder; she manages to have everyone believe her lies.Lawyers are expensive!and she knows this. Guess what? Jokes on her: we know her address now. Papers can now be filed and she can be served.

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The money factor comes in, along with her personality disorder. At this stage the children will need extensive therapy to reintegrate into his life. He may have not seen them in months, but the damage occurred while he was still in the home with them. Their relationship deteriorated years before he was able to leave. While he was working overtime to ensure he was able to afford her spending habits, her crafting hobbies, her need to "treat" all of her friends, and her car she would tell the kids that Daddy thought they were a disappointment when they wouldn't listen to her. That is how she disciplined. On his days off she conveniently had scheduled visits and play dates so she always had to take the kids somewhere. She even planned their birthday parties when he was working so everyone who came would see that "Daddy didn't care". After he left, he could only see them at her house as she put it "to babysit them". Although she had numerous boyfriends as she was trying to find a "Daddy" for her children "that they deserved" once he began seeing me her craziness and manipulative behavior was at it's peak. In the best interest of the children my husband decided that they did not need to be put in the middle of her games. They are happy and he doesn't want to disturb that. He sought legal advice and he could not afford the cost as he still pays her bills as she defaulted on all the loans and credit cards, and the utility bills that were in both their names. As she is on government assistance creditors are not permitted to seek payment from her. His rights as a father who on paper spent 66 hours a week at work and not a lot with the kids when he lived with them doesn't really amount to anything when their Mother can cry on a dime and make believable stories that she was abused by him. (She even has as an awareness ribbon on her bumper that she is a survivor). He pays their health benefits and up to the day we were married he even paid hers. He pays his child support, sends birthday, back to school, Easter and Christmas gifts, mails them letters with self addressed stamped reply envelopes. She doesn't have a phone that he can call them. He is building evidence now. Children do not need to placed in the middle. When the time comes he will be available for them as he is now. We live 300 meters away, his son is old enough to ride his bike across our lawn to get to the skate park by himself...if they want to see him they can walk over an knock on our door. They have been here before, we even have been on our front porch and waved. These children do not need a lawsuit they need therapy.