I finally have a few minutes to get what’s been going on out of my system.

Since BM and SO split up she has been spiraling downward. She had a very comfy life with SO. She didn’t have to work so her days were spent with dealing with the kids. Or spending time with one of her boyfriends (she cheated constantly) or causing drama with her friends, her kids friends, etc. etc. She never had financial worries or a pesky job to take up her precious time.

Since the divorce she has been seeing loser after loser always needing to have a man in her life. Well the last one was the cream of the crop. He had just gotten out of prison and moved into BM’s apartment. The condition being that he drug tested weekly since SD lived there EOW. Things were okay for a few months then the drug tests stopped. So the excuses started and SO just said either SD moves in with me full time or you get me weekly drug tests. Well miraculously after that ultimatum to BM she and this loser “break up” he moves out and is no longer around SD. We have to take her word for it because SD is trained to lie about it and so are the older SD’s so unless we have solid proof we were kinda stuck and not able to do anything.

Well that was about 3 months ago and a week ago SD23 comes over to talk with SO and I. She informs us that her mom is going into a DV shelter because this BF is abusive to her. Yeah the one who she broke up with and has no contact with go figure!!! BM wants SO to keep SD while she is there getting help. Its this big pity party for BM because she is an abused woman and needs help this guy won’t leave her alone she is blameless blah blah blah. SD tells us Bm will get the counseling she needs and she wants to live her life better for SD. SO and I say fine SD is with us but we are planning on filing for primary custody when BM leaves the shelter. We know that if we file right away BM will come back and not get help that she so desperately needs. We also don’t belive most of it because they all lie on a regular basis.
Well BM’s friend who has known her for 20 years and is on again off again friends because she gets fed up with BM’s crap. She comes over and tells us the real story. BM tried to go to the DV shelter but they wouldn’t take her because she doesn’t fit the criteria for an abused woman who is in need of a shelter. So BM decides to check into a drug/alcohol rehab run by the Salvation army. It is a 6 mos program but she is going to stay for 30 days and drop out and come home. She thinks that everything will be the same she will get SD EOW and SO won’t do anything. SD23 told her that because if she thought SO would try for primary custody then she wouldn’t have gone. Now we are just waiting for her to get out so we can file the paperwork and here goes my nice calm quiet life all up in arms.