I know BM lies but what is shocking is that as much as she does it, she isn't getting any better at it. I am one of those people that can pick up on the little things that seems to make BM look shady.

Now I can't always prove that my theories on BM are correct but I make it a point to tell FDH the things that I see, if nothing else it makes him more aware of what BM is doing. So he isn't as shocked when the S*** hits that fan. I also hit at things to teachers and doctors (through FDH) SO that they know too.

Now I am a very honest person. I don't like to lie because it's hard work - if you do it right - too many things to remember. So here are a few things that I have picked up on the past few weeks.

SS7 and Therapy - SS7 has been going to Therapy for just a few visits. he was having panic attacks. I got to go to the last 'parent' meeting (by request of the Therapist) BM appeared uninterested and seemed to think it was a waste of time because she doesn't think there is anything wrong with SS7. Most of the suggestions were directed at BM and the therapist didn't seem impressed with BM. But it was agreed that SS7 would see her one more time and then she wanted him to start school before seeing him again (to see how it went). Well I was supposed to take SS7 to the therapist but BM txt'ed me and said she was taking him - it was confirmed with the sitter that BM picked him up. But we can't seem to confirm that he made it to the appointment. SS7 didn't say anything about seeing the Therapist (who he loves) and BM didn't say anything about setting up the follow up after school started. Well school started and SS7 was a train wreck, so we sent a 'report' to the Therapists office (delivered it myself) but we haven't heard back yet.

Word vomit - at drop off this week FDH asked BM if they could have SS7's eyes checked. He left out that I had noticed a few things with SS7 struggling to see things far away. BM states right away that his eyes are fine, they checked them at his last check-up with the pediatrician. FDH just smiled and said "no they didn't." BM had forgotten that FDH went to the check up last time and sat through the whole thing. They didn't check his eyes.

The school - We went to open house this week. FDH and I like to go and meet the teachers, so that they know who we are and that we are involved. Both teacher were very nice but before we left each one I made it a point to say (because FDH forgot) that they needed to contact FDH directly about any issues or meetings because BM doesn't always inform him in a timely manner. Both Teacher were nice about it and agreed to do so. One asked if we needed to do the meetings separately and FDH said no they would be together (we just can't trust BM to tell us everything) and the other ask if we had a method for sharing paper work back a forth. I told her honestly we that we had not found one that worked. I told her that I scanned in all the stuff from last week and sent it to BM but We had not gotten anything this week. FDH asked if anything had been sent home this week (BM's week) and teacher said yes. She then offered to put extra copies in a folder for us - at first she said leave it in the bag but I think she knew that it wouldn't stay there because then she offered to leave it at the school and send it with SS5 the following Monday. Why we do this - every year BM paints this picture that her and FDH get along great and if they tell her, she will tell him, but she doesn't and the teachers figured that out last year as well.

The favorite child - When we got to the open house BM was leaving in a hurry because her hubby was still working and instead of bringing the children to the open house (which is allowed) she left them with her mom. So FDH and I had the rare chance to talk to the teachers without BM hovering like she did last year. Where the fave child comes in? Well we went to SS5 classroom first and we couldn't find his seat, each child had a writing sample on their table but SS5 was gone, BM must have taken it. And SS5 teacher confirmed seeing BM, in fact she just left. We went to SS7's classroom and his writing sheet was still here. His teacher said that the bus seemed to be sorted out but said nothing about seeing BM. I pointed it out to FDH in the parking lot and added that last year when we went BM was already in SS5's class when we got there and then followed us to SS7 class like a lost puppy. I asked FDH if he thought BM even went to see SS7's teacher this year or if she was in such a hurry she failed to make an impression.