So I posted a few weeks ago how my dd14 came home and told us her friend said ss14 was saying that my dh was growing a garage full of marijuana and that ss found it, so dh offered him drugs every day if he would be nice to me. SS said he refused to be nice to me so he had to move out.

Dh confronted him on it-and ss knew right away that it was dd14 who told us (not that dh confirmed that). SS immediately stated that he did not say this about dh, but about fil (who, um, actually is a pot farmer). I have no idea if ss knows fil grows weed, I dont think it is something he would share and he has been at the "business" for probably close to 40 years so he's a pro-I dont think he'd be growing it in the garage on his property and leave it open and accessible to ss who is one of two kids that live there. But it was enough of an excuse to appease my dh. It made sense to him since as I said fil really is a pot farmer.

Well, dd's friend who told her about all this spent the weekend with us. So I had a chat with her. I had thought that this girl had overheard ss14 saying this to someone else (again dh felt like she missed parts of the conversation)-come to find out that ss14 told her directly that this is why he moved out. Upon hearing this, my dd14's friend, said, "you know I'm one of dd14's best friends, right?" "You know I've been over to your dad's house and in the garage before, right?". So apparently ss14 realized his mistake (he's only lived in the area for about 6 months and did not know dd and this girl were close-she only started coming over after ss moved out)and figured he better come up with some sort of "story". So sure enough, he had it prepared when dh called, knew we heard it from dd right away, and the lies just rolled off his tongue.

I know there's really nothing I can do about this but I guess I am just disgusted by this kids complete and utter lack of values. That he would lie in that manner in the first place and then lie again to dh to cover it up. And that dh would believe it. Dh was sitting there at some point and heard my dd14 say, "oh you mean he told you that to your face? i thought you overheard it" and she said, "oh,no he talks to me all the time on the bus". So Im not really sure he caught the whole story-but for me, I'm done-I guess I was done before-but I had held back from throwing around ultimatums such as "he's never allowed to step foot in the house" but now I'm ready to say "he's never allowed to step foot in my house". I really thought it would just be enough if he moved out, but I truly dont want to ever see that kid again, I dont ever want him in my house, I dont want him even looking at any of my children.