I'm where you are -- been where you are -- and am at my wits end too. It's nail polish, my hair dryer, my hair straightener, my body wash, my expensive perfume, expensive lotions (that my daughter bought for me!), and most recently MY EYE LINER! That grossed me out -- and amazingly, did you know this? Eye liner can unzip itself out of a make up bag, walk itself acrossed a hall, and land itself onto a desk of a closed bedroom ALL BY ITSELF!?? I was totally amazed too!

She not only LIED about it, but my DH believed her lying ass! I was so frickin' pissed I thought I would come out of my skin! My SD is 17, and is the biggest frickin liar on the planet. But if she throws a big enough fit about it, threatens to run away because how dare "momof5 confront her", and then even says "may God strike me dead and take my life if I'm lying!" Seriously. So my DH's response to that was "why would she take that chance?" (That God would strike her dead)?

(I'm waiting until you all finish laughing) -- cuz when I told my girlfriends this, they couldn't stop laughing.) Yah, this is my frickin life.

I've had to go buy a new hair dryer, new hair straightener, put a lock on my bedroom door, hide my things in my bedroom, and tote them back and forth to the bathroom all so that she won't steal them!

So tired of this shit.

been there. and you didn't lose it over nail polish. you lost it over your things once again being made to be available for sd. i lost it over chap stick and my camera before. that bitch was always taking my chap stick, not borrowing, keeping it, and then getting shitty with me when i told her to give it back, like i had no right to take it from her. she even told me in her snotty tone "well, i NEED chap stick!" not my problem, bitch.

when my cousin graduated, i was looking for my camera. nowhere to be found. i was almost in tears that i wouldn't be able to take pictures of such a big day in my baby cousin's life. fdh acted like it wasn't a big deal. i told him my cousin graduates ONCE, and if i don't have pictures, i will never have them as that day is not going to repeat itself. he admitted that sd asked HIM if she could use MY camera. (to take slutty pictures for her my space page). he let her. i asked him why he was allowing her to use MY things instead of telling her to ask ME. i told him i was sick and tired of her always asking him for MY stuff. i ended up finding it in her room, buried like she didn't want me to find it. fucking bitch. can you tell i hate her?

i don't understand why these asshole dads can't just admit that they screwed up instead of defending their stupidity and their kids tendencies to take and keep stuff that isn't theirs. i even told him over the chap stick episode after he went out and bought a bunch of chap stick that it wasn't about chap stick. it was about her constantly getting into my personal things and keeping them! i wonder how these idiots would like it if we let our brothers, dads, sons, etc, get into their stuff all the time? oh, well that would be totally "different", of course!

I have a SD13 who is just like this. Thank God she no longer comes over because life was unbearable, always walking on eggshells in my own home. But, while she was here we always had to think way ahead of her which I hear you tried by hiding the polish way in the back, under the sink.

I bought locks for my children's bedrooms and told my husband that if SD's behavior continued, we would be buying locks for our room as well.

Dreamy30 has the right idea but I would take it a step further...I'd buy a cabinet that was large enough to put somewhere that would be an annoyance to DH's space (like placing the elephant in the room thought) so that DH will be inconvenienced. Don't give DH any warning, let it be a surprise just like having your things taken with no warning. When he asks why this is in the way, you can tell him what I often say to my DH..." I'd rather have you annoyed than for me to be pissed off all the time, since it is me who is being disrespected". Or you can say....

He who doesn't parent HIS child get's the SOLUTION parked in front of his__(you pick)__!

You get the idea? Good luck

I have the same problem with my DH and SD14. She moved in with us in May and both she and DH seem to think that because she lives there she is ENTITLED to anything and everything that is mine. I found some of my VS body spray in her backpack one day, I have to hide all of my shampoo, conditioner, hair stuff because I know she'll use it since she uses MY bathroom to take a shower (when she has her own right next to HER room), she has stolen my clothes in the past (coudln't prove it, but there was NO doubt in my mind, no other explanation), and the lastest was when she was getting ready to go to DH Aunt's house for the summer, I purposely HID my brand new luggage that my mom got me for my birthday.. so it wouldn't have to be an issue of me looking like the bad guy telling DH that I didn't want her to use it. Well, I went to work, came home the night they were leaving and there is my brand new luggage sitting on the front deck! DH apparently went searching for it and never bothered to ask me. We got into a HUGE blow out about it, where he of course claimed I was being childish, selfish and petty and that I just hated SD blah blah blah. NO! my point is we ALL need boundaries! Order in the WORLD is based on this. But it's like talking to a damn stick.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this! I'm in the same boat. SD15 thinks that it's just okay to waltz into our bedroom/bathroom and help herself to my shit. Has taken my makeup, and taken it to a friend's for an overnight....and left my makeup at the friend's house.

Seriously. Who DOES this shit???? Oh...wait. Entitled, brat-ass skids. That's who.

First, DH needs to get with the program. He doesn't have any business authorizing anyone to use your stuff. It's YOUR stuff.

Second, once he gets with the program, put a lock on your door and keep her out. That's what we've had to do.

I put a lock on my closet door. FDH told me I am "paranoid"...but when we went on a trip and left SD18 there on her own he was cramming his stuff in my locking closet...hmmm...who is paranoid now? LOL

I hide everything in my bedroom closet in bags!! DH just put a lock on our bedroom door. I would be pissed if SD did that to me!!

DH cannot understand why my bedroom closet is such a disaster. I have everything I own shoved in there!! I can't find anything so theres no way SD will be able to!! It sucks when I actually need something because it takes forever to dig thru all my crap.

I also purchased an under the bed box where I hide all my purses and DH has no idea its there. No one looks under the bed!!