Hallelujah! The leeches are one step closer to being out the door
This weekend, The Mister finally (FINALLY) laid down the law with his son:
Either you start giving us money every month, towards the goal of your moving out, OR you need to find another place to live.
The leech actually became indignant! Claiming he didn’t have any “extra money” to give… The Mister said then we will sit down and go over your finances to find where your money is going and he had the AUDACITY to say “my finances are none of your business”
Well, it’s probably a good thing that I wasn’t there for this conversation, because I would have gone ballistic at that comment.
Mister handled it well, told him as long as you and your girlfriend and your baby are living here, and we are providing a roof over your collective heads, your finances ARE my business!
We have a big vacation coming up… we are meeting my step-daughter’s boyfriends’ family (father, step-mom, brothers/wives etc) for the first time (they live far away from us)
Mister said that he doesn’t want any drama for the week, so we are waiting till after vacation to get money from the leeches. (though leech has already set the stage, complaining that since he finished paying his bills for the month, he only has $300 “spending money” for vacation… he will, without a doubt, sulk like a spoiled child, because he won’t have enough money to do what HE wants to do
(did I mention that the house we’re staying in for the week, the amusement passes, the food for the week, that he pays NOTHING for any of it, and never has?)
I told The Mister that this year, we shouldn’t accept any $$ from his daughter toward vacation. I don’t feel that it’s fair that every year, she puts money out of her pocket when her brother continues to ride for free. Even when she didn’t really have much money, she’d offer something. Last year, I wouldn’t take $$ toward the house and she went to the grocery store and spent nearly $200 stocking the house w/ food, drinks and paper products. This year, I don’t even want her to do that. (I have a feeling that her and her b/f are going to be making an announcement this week… getting married. We will contribute what we can afford for the wedding, but they’ll be saving too, and I know they are already saving toward buying a house, so she deserves to keep the money in her
‘pocket’ since her brother has never had to open his wallet for anything on our family vacations!
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You have an skid, a
You have an skid, a girlfriend and a baby living with you and paying nothing? Oh my! Crazy, crazy, crazy. My father NEVER talked to us about becoming pregnant. But he made it a point to talk to his friends and let us hear that "if we EVER became pregnant, we would be ON OUR OWN." Sorry, that was enough for my sister and I not to be stupid. We KNEW he meant it. If these kids are old enough to be making babies, then it's time they get their own place and support themselves. It makes me sick that these "kids" think that they DESERVE to live the same life as their parents did without having any of the responsibility. Good luck to you.
PS - I think you are being extremely nice about the SD...I think you are definitely a VERY FAIR person to understand that she is responsible and thus should be "rewarded" in some way and HE should be kicked to the curb. Good for you!
@herewegoagain, I can't even
@herewegoagain, I can't even begin to tell you how sick I have been about this son of his. I am glad that what both myself and my step-daughter have been trying to get thru my husband's thick dome is finally seeping in... You are not doing HIM any favors by letting him live this life this way and you are only damaging OUR relationship by allowing it to continue.
I hate to sound like I'm putting my SD on a pedestal, but even in the beginning, when her and I didn't always see eye to eye, I had to respect her for the person that she is. She's been working and saving her money since she was a young kid, she's always been financially and personally a responsible person. The Mister paid for her first 4 years of school and she worked and paid for her Masters degree on her own, and hasn't lived home since she graduated from high school. She went off to college and has been on her own since then. I don't understand how two people, raised by the same person, (he was pretty much a single Dad) with the same rules, can be so polar opposite of one another?
How does one languish while the other thrives?