Ok, ST's. I was making a post on someone else's blog, and it reminded me of a dilemma I have:

My DH and I have just moved into our new home. It's a nice neighborhood. There are some children in the subdivision that are around the SKIDS ages (10).

My DH is all excited, because he feels that his kids can make friends while they are here.

Although I can understand where he is coming from, because it would be nice for them to have friends (and thus, something to occupy them while they are here), but they are so bad mannered that I don't want them to make "friends" while they are here.

These kids use foul language, steal, break property, don't listen, back talk, bite, kick, hit, punch, are disrespectful, and are all around totally horrible. And yes, they do act that way when they are at other people's home. In our old neighborhood, none of the kids on the block were allowed to play with them. ALL of the other parents had banned them from their homes.

I'm sure there was a block party when we moved out. I'm not kidding.

So my dilemma is:

I don't want them to make friends while they are here. I don't want to be associated with their bad behavior. I don't want to be known as "those parents." I don't want to have to be in the position of looking at the other parents in the neighborhood and KNOWING that my SKIDS did them wrong. I don't want to be exiled. I don't want there to be problems.

And I really don't want to have to embark on the whole, "not my kid, not my problem" with new people. We all know what evil assholes we become to other people when they realize that we aren't totally in LOVE with our SKIDS. Right?

How do I handle it?

One neighbor walking by with her kids stopped to talk. She asked her if we had any children and I lied. I told her "no."

OMG. I just cannot, in good conscious, send the SKIDS into someone else's home - KNOWING what the result was going to be. I would rather be known for lying about having children, than be known as a "parent" to these monsters.

So how do I handle it with my new neighbors?

I feel obligated to warn any and all parents that try to seek out scheduling a play date between their kids and the SKIDS.

I honestly feel like they need to be warned to keep their kids as far away from these children as possible.

But how do I really handle it?

Personally, as a parent to my own kid, I would want to be warned to keep my kid away from someone that had the potential to taint him.

Thanks in advance.