Well the weekend was wonderful. Espicially without SD16. Not sure if I might like this more than i thought.

DH and i went out Friday. It was his surprise birthday and he had no clue. We walked into the house and everyone yelled...He was speechless and sorta sad he told me. He was sad becuase he knew i went through alot to plan this for him and he has been a fool. We had a great time. I told DH lets not think of that lets just have a blast tonight. So we did. He stayed over that night without SD which was amazing. I forget alot how much I miss him. Shes always around so its so hard!

Sat morning he left and I went to a friends for breakfast and hang for the day. Sat around 3 DH called me and wanted to go for dinner. Now I did not have BS14 he was with his father for the weekend. DH of course had SD so he asked if it was ok if she came. I said i am sorry no it isnt. i do not have BS and things right now are calm. I just can't. He didnt flip out which i thought he would so he said well i have SD so i guess I'll call you later. OK I said and I hung up. I called another girlfriend of mine and stopped by her house for drinks. Her DH is friends with mine. So DH calls me again at 5, whatcha doin? I said at so and so's. Oh he said that sounds like fun. It is. Now they live about 3 houses down the street so i walked this way if I have to many drinks i am good. Well we ordered in and were already drinking. DH was like I might stop by. I said OK, and we hung up. Now keep in mind this was at 5. 5:20 her doorbell rings and low and behold its DH. He gives me a big kiss and the night goes on. We had a great time. SD16 called him 7 times, he left the room to talk and the 8th time his phone rang he looked at it and shut it off looked at me and winked. I smiled. He ended up staying over again sat to sunday. Sunday we woke went out for breakfast. SD couldnt call because DH never put his phone back on so when my cell rang at breakfast I looked and it was SD I gave the phone to DH and said your call its SD. He pressed the ignore button and our breakfast continued...IT WAS GREAT!!!! But I still have wall up now....

So we get back to house and i am thinking he will be leaving. He says I'm going to work in the garage for a bit and mow the lawn. I was like ahhhh OK. He stayed sunday till 4. He didnt want to leave. I screened all calls and SD16 called the house 12 times. To bad there was no answer. i did tell DH SD has been calling non-stop. His responce....She is with my mother, my sister is there like always, she is fine. Ill see her when I get back. We did talk alot on the deck which was amazing without SD comming out. It was the best weekend we have had since we have had SD full time. Even he admitted this was great. Yesterday was our first therapy session and it went great. Our goal is to continue this "dating" for awhile and see where it takes us. He is to not let his daughter get involved in our relationship. Not answering her 50 calls is step one. She did get her licsense so he is hoping for a miracle of her becomming a normal teen. I can only hope but we can not depend on that. he needs to set boundries and stick to them. I am keeping my fingers crossed. I will not see him tonight but Wed will be our date night and he will be staying over every wed until the end of the month. At the end of the month we will see how things are going and take it from there or continue this. Time will tell. We are going away the weekend of the 25th and have decided to extend it to a long weekend. I am not going to get excited. I need more time to make sure he gets it. We love eachother so there is still hope! Sat we have a date to. I am liking the dates....Its like it was in the beginging. NICE!!!!!!