The Counselor

To make a long story short (shorter) I’ll jump right into it. My Skids see a counselor regular, and after the fiasco with the school counselor going behind everyone’s back and allowing the kids to call from her cell phone, and email BM (who was the counselors “special friend” while the kids were in her session at school. An outside counselor is now involved.

Today is the first day with the new outside counselor. I told my SS11 I would be picking him and his sister, my SD6 up after school. He wanted to know why, they normally ride the bus after school. I was told him he had an appointment with a counselor. He began whining and going on about he already spoke with the other school counselor and she wasn’t allowed to let him call his mother from school any more, and how they can’t help, how it wasn’t fair. I explained they could call their mother anytime they wanted, and that wasn’t something that needed to be done at school. The children are allowed to call email write letters to their mother who lives out of state whenever they ask. He then gets mad and starts in on how he already has told the other school counselors everything that goes on in our home, and he’ll get his father, and they know everything his father does to them at home. I’m like what are you talking about?

He is the most ungrateful spoiled little boy ever. I’m tired of it. I don’t trust him, SS lied during the divorce proceedings before. His mother told him to tell lies if he loved her, and if he wanted to live with her. I’m afraid that SS11 is starting this again. A jury decided BM wasn’t a fit mother and gave custody of the kids to their father. Their mother got remarried a month after the divorce and moved 1200miles away.

My SS11 can’t stand rules and with 3 children in our house we are strict parents. He knows he gets whatever he wants from his mother. He is always saying he wishes he was an only child so he could get his way all the time. (His mother is also pregnant again but I don’t think he understands he will never be an only child again even if he lived with her) We try our best to be firm and consistent but always fair. I don’t expect any less from them as my own child. This situation is getting ridiculous. My husband and I’ve talked about the what ifs of SS moving to his mothers, and my husband tells me if SS does ever move there he is lost. He knows that BM won’t encourage schooling, and discipline SS will be left to raise his self since she’s so selfish. He is a lucky little boy to have what we provide and to hear him bash his father and act like we are some kind of monsters just really gets me. I really feel so sad about it all.