My SD's were really eager to help but they didn't meet them for a couple months, I think dad should help you out as much as any new dad and try and play it by ear what you are comfortable with the Skids helping with, try and make it positive so the skids don't get jelous and turn on you. congrats!!

My SD then 13 and I didn't get along well until the twins were born, then she was very excited about helping with the babies. She even offered to help with nighttime feedings. I hated for her to go back to school. DH was very hands on, almost mother-henish for the first couple weeks then once I felt more confident, backed off.

The first couple weeks are hard, I won't sugercoat it. Just concentrate on you and the baby and let everything else slide. Happy mommy=happy baby. When I would get overwhelmed, I would remind myself that women have been raising babies since the beginning of time, and with less education and they survived, so I would too.

1. Enjoy your new miracle 2.Ignore BM. Put a giant ignore button in your brain and press it. 3. Include the skids whenever possible in care/feeding. CTBB was 12 when Perfectson, our first bio was born, he loved him! 4.If you have a difficult baby (Perfectson was super easy), keep your cool, and THIS is the point where DH would really step up(pun intended). Tell him now, before the baby is born, that if the baby is high maitinence he WILL have all the responsibility for the skids.5. Also now, write down any concern you can anticipate and brainstorm w/ DH NOW how to deal with it. You can't ever know how wonderful it is to have a bio until you have them, congrats to you!!!

Congratulations on the new baby! DH and I are expecting baby #3 in early October but we never see the steps. Supposedly things will change after BM#1 moves back from another state this summer. SS#1 was never jealous but very helpful and protective. It was cute.

I had to have a sit down with my dh because he was great with BS when SD wasn't here (she is here 50% of the time) but then when she showed up, I was like a single mother. And every time he did help with BS she monopolized his attention. It was fine at first because BS didn't notice but as he got a little bigger and formed a personality, it started pissing me off that SD got her quality one-on-one time with DH and BS had to share his time with daddy with her. DH couldn't even give him a bath without SD up his ass. So I had tell dh the following "BS will eventually figure out that he gets short-changed when she is here. More importantly, you're sending her the message that she is more important than BS. That she deserves one-on-one time, but he has to share with her." He started to argue that she is only here 50% of the time but I came back with "Well, if her mother had another kid, too and she did the same thing you're doing then SD is getting 100% attention from two parents at the expense of these other children. What message do you think that is sending her? She already has a superiority complex. Stop feeding it by letting her think she comes first just because she is here". He's come around, but it took about 4 months of arguments.

I have a 1YO daughter to my OH and he has 3 boys from a previous marriage. The eldest (13) lives with us, the other 2, 6 and 8 are here every other day. One is obsessed with my daughter so much that I struggle to bear it. I think it's weird and I get an awful feeling about it. The other 2 are great with her. Dad helps out loads and tries to share his time around everyone which I know is very hard and stressful for him. My main issue is my own guilt. I feel guilty for wanting it to be just me and my baby and OH, I feel guilty becsuse I don't feel the same about the boys as I do my daughter, I feel guilty for planning to leave my daughter with her grand parents while we take the 2 younger boys to Disney land, I feel guilty for always trying to include them in plans so I don't seem selfish or like I'm treating my daughter differently to them and then through all of this I am resentful towards them for making me feel like this. When in reality it isn't their fault or my OHs. He's never expected me to feel for them what I feel for my daughter and quite frankly I don't think the boys even care. Just make sure that whatever happens you enjoy every second you have with your baby. It's a special moment and no one should ever make you miss out. 

Your OH will probably have to figure out how to share time equally but eventually you'll all get there. Just while he's trying to figure it out himself, focus on your little bundle of joy. Get in your bubble and don't worry about anyone else. Congratulations xxxx