Holy crap. Burn the shed down. }:)

He feels it is ok to have a locked shed on our property that he will not allow me to go in unless he's present.

Um.. is your DH a serial killer? This is rather creepy... maybe I just read too many ax murderer type books, but really??? Who does this???

Wtf could possibly be in that shed u need not see besides dead girls? Seriously? I thought you were married, alllll of "his" things are "ours"

Well hello hismineandours' husband. I am sorry that you feel the need to read her posts. I assure you that the only reason any of us come on here is for support when we dont get it at home. This site is a wonderful tool for us SM's and we use it to vent and get advice. Feel feel to read other blogs and open your eyes. My FDH does and he has really realized that he has messed up in several ways. It has made us stronger. Yes you may be mad at her for posting, but cant you blame her...when was the last time you asked her how she felt, what she wanted out of life. Have you ever sat her down and started out a conversation about your kids wanting to hear what she feels and sees? Try it...

Ah, the shed thing does remind me of Dexter!! That is a little (or a lot) strange.

And to the hubby of yours, (if he reads this), I just want to say:
SUPPORT your wife!! She is obviously trying to do what is best for your family to survive. Being a stepparent is HARD enough, but when you don't have a supportive spouse, it is nearly impossible. She clearly is willing to work to help your family survive and be happy, so back her up!!

And let her in the damn shed, creep-o!!!!

Will any of what you've said on here be of surprise to him?

Yup, thats why I only get on at work. Your DH is creepy with the shed thing... if it was MY husband, he had better hurry home tonight because I would be in that shed.

I like the idea of using bolt cutters on the shed like NOW and getting to the bottom whatever the fuck is in there that he doesn't feel you should see. I get the whole "this is my space" thing, but that's extreme. How many years have you been with this man again? And your curiosity over what could be in there hasn't kept you up at night? Why am I getting shivers up my spine? I am envisioning a dark, stormy night with you creeping to the shed in your pj's and finding a bag full of wallets, purses and ID's from all his victims. EEwwww....

Two words...

Bolt Cutter...

My property, my marriage, my business.........

Grow up DH!

Too bad jackasses like this can't put as much work into being a good husband and father as they put into spying on their WIFE!

are you married to my mom's xh??? seriously he was JUST like that.

imo, you are a resident of the property, he cannot legaly stop you from entering that shed, and honestly just because he doen'st want you in there, would make me break the lock and entre' and sort JUST TO PISS him off

you don't want to burn it down cause he might have a safe full of 10's of g's of cash in there (my step dad did)

that would be a freaking deal breaker for me end of story

and off of dorothy's note-if he doesnt' want her in shed, he shouldn't have snuck on here-imo, he OWES it to her to show her what he's obviously hiding in there ESPECIALLY now

I agree. That is beyond weird. Would you be mad if it was porn? Do you think that's a possibility? I don't really have a porn policy, but DH doesn't seem to be into porn anyway. In previous relationships, I actually dated a porn addict, and the only reason that was truly upsetting was because he neglected me in order to spend more time with his "collection". EEK.

Anyway, the only other thing I can think is that your H is keeping momentos from A) previous girlfriend, or from his previous "family" life with BM, or C) dead girls.

I guess he could have KKK stuff in there???

Really, I'd do what someone else already suggested and invest in a good pair of bolt cutters. If that's too brash (or confrontations) then put a lock on your closet, or better, an entire room in the house, tell him you have person "stuff" in there and see how he likes it.

If he wanted to be really snarky--which he totally deserves--you could buy a bigger nicer shed while he's out (at work, with friends, whatever) and put it in the back yard, pack some stuff into it (or make it into a skid-free haven with tv, dvd player, mini fridge and microwave) and then put a lock on it.

OR (this is getting fun for me)
Get a camcorder so you have evidence and cut the lock off. DONT GO IN. Replace the lock with a new one that only you have the key to. Then see how long it takes him to say something about it. WHEN he does ask about it, tell him that he doesn't REALLY need anything he can't tell you about (you're married) so if he wants to keep it then it might as well be locked away where it won't interfere with your marriage.

oh yeah, and PLEASE update us on what you decide to do. I'm totally invested now.

i think the reason he's snooping is because if he snoops, he can accuse you of talking about his kids behind his back, spreading personal family business with strangers, whatever he pulls out of his ass to accuse you of, and then he can really drive home what a bad person you are. but if he listens to what you try to talk to him about, then he's accountable to either do something or ignore you. he doesn't want to do anything about it, and ignoring you would make him partially if not fully responsible for the issues you are trying to resolve. it's so much easier to just read what you say on here and make you out to be awful for it. then he gets to not do anything and still not be responsible. jackass.

I *love* the "one way street" notion of it all. . . rules for THEE (SM) but not for ME (DH, BM, skids).

Sad thing is if our relationships truly WERE two way streets, then we wouldn't have to come on here and vent in the first place. SM is just supposed to suck it up and keep smiling while the rest of the "clan/first family" rides roughshod over her.

My husband was like this with the attic when I moved in. Finally went up myself and honestly just crap up there that he would rather I not bitch about getting rid of...We have a shed too that has a lock on it, that he never thought I needed to go in. Went in there and threw most of his shit out...Sorry I am not keeping crap. Everytime they do a charity pick up I go and take two or three boxes out and put it at the curb. Could care less, if he wanted it or needed it he would find a place for it...

To your DH - Stop snooping here, you may not like what you hear....

Well there is really no use in deleting anything if he's already read it, and there is no use in changing your user name since he will just find out who you are again anyways. That is a major violation of your privacy, you come here to vent and for advise because maybe you don't feel you can talk to him or maybe you feel he doesn't understand. Shame on him for invading your safe haven.