WTF? : FIL tells SS6 to take a piece of the cake I baked home to BM

Last week was SS6's birthday. As usual, I baked a cake from scratch for him. I've done this for years. This year, I made SS6 a chocolate cake with chocolate cream cheese frosting. Despite being a total pain in the ass, the frosting turned out awesome.

FIL was here for the birthday, and had been talking to me while I made the cake, so he knew that I made it.

While everyone's eating cake, he turns to SS6 and tells him this:

"You should take some of the cake home to your mom. She loves chocolate."

SS6 turns to DH and asks if he can take some home, and DH dodges the issue by saying that he was going to eat it all.

I, of course, go through the usual self interrogation:

Why am I reacting negatively to that idea?
Should SS6 take some home to BM?
Is that what's best for SS6?
If he does take some home, won't she just say it's bad cake and then won't we be stuck with a giant cake no one wants to eat because SS6 will be convinced it sucks?
Does that matter in the long run?

And on the other side, I'm thinking "F*ck you. Get the f*ck out of my house. How dare you suggest that ANYTHING I EVER MAKE should go to BM?"

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I think it's hilarious! Send

I think it's hilarious! Send a piece home for her. Too bad you can't be a fly on the wall to watch her squirm when SS6 goes on and on about how you made it from scratch and it's the best cake he ever had }:)

lol. I didn't think of that

lol. I didn't think of that (I try not to think of what happens at the other house at all). All I could think was that I'm on a diet and I need the kids to eat the damn cake.

man, you guys are so much

man, you guys are so much more optimistic than i am. i'm really starting to realize just how pessimistic i've become through this whole situation. it really was a pretty kick ass cake. DH said the frosting was the best he'd ever had.

I will get flamed, I know.

I will get flamed, I know. But if I was going to send ANYTHING that I spent MY time and effort in making, it would be something that contains what she is allergic to! }:)

this comment is priceless. i

this comment is priceless. i think i'm going to start investigating and see if i can find out what BM is allergic to and then purposefully make a cake to send some over. }:)

i really thought that FIL

i really thought that FIL just didn't get it when DH and I first started seeing each other. but now I think he is knowingly being a jackass. he is actually divorced, and both DH and I put a lot of effort into making sure that we never mention his exwife (DH's mom) in front of him. we don't want him to be uncomfortable while he's here, so we try not to bring up touchy subjects. he, on the other hand, goes out of his way to bring up BM and seems to expect me to be happy and polite during these ridiculous conversations.

and he KNOWS we are not the brady bunch. he knows BM is a piece of crap. he knows she doesn't take care of her own kids. but he'd rather live in a fantasy land than deal with that, and he's trying to force DH and I into that same ridiculous fantasy.

it's not gonna happen.

Hahaha! I would have sent it!

Hahaha! I would have sent it! And hopefully while she is eating it, she says how good it is. It would be priceless when SS would say you made the cake! She would probablly choke on it

this is it! i'll make a cake

this is it! i'll make a cake with nuts or chocolate bits in it and then just cross my fingers that she DOES choke on it. you steppers are genius.

i think it is totally f'n

i think it is totally f'n rude of fil to say such a thing. BUT, i would send a piece of cake home for sure, it would be such an 'in your face bitch', what did you do special for ss?? whenever i bake something for ags (yes, as much as i can't stand them being in my home, i do nice things for them once in a while) i always send any left overs home with them... i don't know why, it's not to get a dig at ffc or anything, maybe it's one of the nice things i do to feel better for being so evil the rest of the time.

i thought it was really rude

i thought it was really rude too, especially since he knows BM is a constant pain in the ass. he knows we are not "one big happy family" and that we don't get along with her at all, so it was pretty much absurd for him to think that was a reasonable suggestion.

she really doesn't need it.

she really doesn't need it. she's already having some pretty serious weight issues (not that I'm super skinny). it's just upsetting because here i am trying to do something nice for SS6 and instead of being happy that his new daughter in law actually likes and cares about his grandkids, FIL has to turn the situation into something about stupid ass BM--who he apparently knows is such a loser that she didn't make or buy a cake for SS on his birthday.

I don't think he was trying

I don't think he was trying to do that at all. If he's anything like my Dad, he was being cheeky. He wanted to see the look on her face when she found out you made a fabulous cake for her son, that he shared in the celebration with you, he was trying to rub it in. I'm sure he thought the look on your face was priceless, too

LOL when ex and I were

LOL when ex and I were married I used to bake an awesome choclate cake for his birthday every year. One year when the kids were younger he asked them to ask me to make him one. They came home all excited and I "helped" them make it. When their SM came to pick them up she came in and picked up the cake to take home to my ex. She seemed cool as can be about it and ex even called and thanked me for it. The kids were happy so it was a good thing.

Now some years later SM and I were talking and she tells me how she was so mad about the whole cake incident!!! She felt bad because she didn't want to hurt the kids feelings. But her and my ex got into a big fight about it!!! We laughed at the time but she was pissed when it happened.

that's hysterical. that would

that's hysterical. that would be a pretty tough situation for everyone involved. your ex should have throught that through and maybe talked to his wife about first. it's cool that you the SM have a mellow enough relationship that you can talk about it now--and even laugh about it. i can't even imagine talking to BM about ANYTHING. All I ever hear out of her mouth is requests for me to take care of her kids because she's too busy/lazy/upset/whatever.

OMG, I don't blame her! Can

OMG, I don't blame her! Can you imagine that conversation? "My ex wife makes the best chocolate cake I've ever had so I requested she make me one. Honey, can you go over to my ex wife's house and pick up the delicious chocolate cake she baked me from scratch?"

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!

lol. maybe i should start

lol. maybe i should start sending cakes over all the time. this is going to sound very mean but i would love it if i could have some part in BM turning into a whale. i have never wished that on anyone before, but i'm so sick of her that i'd probably buy a bottle of champagne if she got hit by a bus.

i wish that was the case. FIL

i wish that was the case. FIL has been stuck up BM's ass ever since the divorce. he lets her in our house whenever he's here to visit. it's happened twice in the past, and when she came to pick up the kids on SS6's birthday, he let her in the house AGAIN. i'm literally on the verge of barring him from our home. she's got alot of money, so i think that's part of the issue.

I would totally be happy to

I would totally be happy to send it as well and show her that I am better than her in that way also. BM never does anything that involves going out of her way for her kids. She probably wouldn't eat it anyway, just like how I don't eat the expired frozen pizzas she gives the girls to bring to our house like we don't eat over here or something.

OMG. this is pure gold.

I made a strawberry cake from

I made a strawberry cake from scratch last year for SD5's bday. (This was back when I was trying to be a good litle stepmother, now they are lucky if I do a box.) It was so delicious and there was so much left that the girls really wanted to take some home. I was on a perpetual diet so I didn't care, but I would love to have seen the look on her face when the girls came home excited about SM's cake.

Oh and don't worry about those pizzas. They go straight into the garbage. It's funny because we feed them 3 square meals and snacks when they are with us and actually go through the effort of cooking for them, but when they go to BM's they are always complaining that she doesn't feed them. Maybe she should be less worried about what goes on at our house and worry more about feeding those damn pizzas to them herself.

we had a ton of pizza left

we had a ton of pizza left over after bs3's first bday party. sd grabbed one to take to her mom's since she was going there after the party. yeah, it pissed me off. not a huge deal because i have no issues with bm, just pissed me off because she just helped herself to it. it was rude of fil to do that to you. i wouldn't know how to bring it up to him without sounding petty, though. not saying it's a petty thing to get mad about, but that's probably how he would take it.