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The "site that shall not be named" bullshit - language

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Submitted by madrasta on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 7:05am

Someone just directed me to a link of one of my blog entries posted on "the site that shall not be named". Like the rest of you, I joined this site to vent. What I put in my blog are my own personal feelings about a difficult situation. I have put them out here for help and advice from others who are going through similar situations. And I trusted that this site was a *safe* place to put my feelings. I do not act on my feelings. I am never anything but nice to my SD.

But to see one of my entries on "the site that shall not be named" with the comment "this one pretty much takes the cake". Too much for me. While I will continue reading the blogs of the people who I feel are like *friends* and will probably kick my two cents in every now and then, I do believe my ST days are over. I have a journal that I will post to and I will keep it private. If I have a question I may ask.

What a fucking shame that something that I felt saved my sanity at a time when I was lost in the maze of being a stepmom has now become a place for internet trolls to find material to judge, to criticize, to belittle. I will not allow my personal trials be the source of other people's disdain. Even sadder that these trolls have such low self-esteem that they need to make themselves feel better by taking other people's pain and using it as a source for their own sick, twisted entertainment.

Fuck you "the site that shall not be named". Not religious at all, but here's a little reading material from the Gospel of Matthew, Ch 7:

"Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye."

Chew on that, bitches.

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Submitted by madrasta on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 7:13am

Echo - I am trying to delete my old blogs and am not sure how to do it. Can you tell me what I need to do?

No I didn't see it until someone pointed it out to me. I don't waste my time looking at crap like that.

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Submitted by madrasta on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 7:27am

Ladies,
There is another site I use that is private. You choose who you want to see your blog entries and you can set up your own community. I am going to go on later today and will set something up. If you are interested and wish to be a part of it, PM me and I will send you the information after I set it up.

It is not safe here. Probably never was. But now that I see my shit out there being judged, I want no more part of this.

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Submitted by madrasta on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 7:40am

I hear you NSS. However, I came here for help in learning to live with a skid, not to have my personal shit put out there for others to mock. I used this site to get out the ugly feelings so I could understand them and deal with them. To see my blog entry with the comment "I am pretty sure this one takes the cake" was like salt on a wound. I won't subject myself to it.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 7:40am

I looked at it. They are truly a bunch of weirdos, but I am not too upset.

I mean, what kind of life do they have? They can't spell, write a sentence with any kind of structure, and I just giggle at a vision of fat, dumpy housewives eating cheetos and reveling in the fact that they do, indeed, have friends-even if they are online friends.

It is probably the most popular they have ever been. Bless their little hearts.

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Submitted by madrasta on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 7:47am

Done and done. I have set up a private community for anyone interested. Of course, right now I am the only member. No one has access to the community unless they become members. I have minimized the access of content to web searches. If you are interested, please PM me and I will give you the info.

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Submitted by Anonymous_stepmom on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 8:42am

Wow! I was busy most of yesterday, haven't seen all this much until now. This is ridiculous really. I haven't read their site nor do I intend to. I've learned a lot over the years and I've learned that I can't please everyone, those people, I've never met, never will and so I will not allow them to tear me down, I will not be afraid to post anything I want to vent about or need advice about, life isn't sunshine and rainbows, step parents or nothing, nothing and no body is perfect and I will not feel censored. This site has helped me a lot and I won't be going anywhere at this time.

I do however believe and agree that this site should be private, I never knew it was not, it adds a sense of security and privacy and we should all have the opportunity to feel the comfort of that, we shouldn't have to feel censored or that we must bottle our feelings about certain day to day things when most of us in reality have no one to turn to as it is.

I'd seriously be insane already if I hadn't found this place.

A little advice for these sad individuals (because I'm sure they are reading).....

"Judging a person does not define who THEY are, it defines who YOU are."

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Submitted by the_stepmonster on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 8:50am

Wasn't there some discussion a while back about starting a private FB group as well? I would be interested in participating in one if anyone else is. Unless of course the admins here could do something about privacy settings here.

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Submitted by MissSoMean on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 8:54am

I would be interested in a private FB group also! I hardly ever post anything on here, for fear of being found out Blum 3 But I would really miss this site if it were to change or if the regulars were to leave.

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Submitted by donna123 on Thu, 01/26/2012 - 10:10am

What a joke that site is. The “adults” who post on sybermom for the most part are exactly the type of entitled, vicious, self-unaware type of SKIDS (hehe) we are dealing with in our adult stepchildren. You will note for the most part it’s the stepmoms they attack with unbridled hatred, not the stepdads.

For self-proclaimed geniuses they are among the stupidest people I have ever seen. If you were an employer would you hire any of those folks? I sure wouldn’t. They are leaving footprints in the sand and one day their careless words, which they think are clever now, are gonna come back and bite them in the ass. Copying and pasting or linking from another site is the height of classless behaviour and a person of integrity and intelligence would never do so. They are bullies pure and simple.

And, someone ought to teach those illiterates something about the proper use of literary devices such as satire. Their attacks are not even cleverly written. They are pure codswallop.

I have never started a blog for precisely this reason. It’s too easy to track. If you want to stalk me SKIDS (ha, ha that word is starting to grow on me, now that I know it’s a sore spot) you are going to have to plough through a lot of material to get to what I wrote. Have at it. You might learn something in the process.

I would not leave this site though and I sure wouldn’t feel one ounce of compulsion to defend myself against that lot’s assaults. Just be more careful and realize all the time that someone is watching you and it isn’t God.