What's wrong with your child
Someone give me some good advice, PLEASE!I have a 6 year old and my boyfriend has a 6 year old/ his son is about 6 months younger.I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. I do love him, but dont want to be miserable.
I am pregnant by him, due in February 2012. So because of the pregnancy he wants me to move in with him. I can't do this!
I started trying to spend time with him before I decided to move in with him. But, I have been for the last few months avoiding him more than I should because I hate how his kid wants to lie, whine, and be sefish with or toward my kid. This kid is unreal and gets by with it. He gets overly angry about simple things most of the time if he doesn't get his way then he wont play at all with my son.
What should I do?
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Have you tried talking to
Have you tried talking to your BF about it? That would def be a first step, hopefully he is understanding and tries to correct the issue.
I feel like he would think I
I feel like he would think I was picking on his kid. I let his kid come over to my house because my child does like him and want to play with him. But I see the negative in this relationship. That day ended with my bf's child screaming in my childs face like 1 inch away and jumping over my couch throwing shoes in my living room. It was over what some people say simple child stuff but not in my opinion. They were playing the WII and it was my sons turn and his child got mad and said he hadn't played which I saw with my eyes he was playing. My child knows how to share but the other one doesn't know how. I feel like its his family too that has issues and really know I need to just step away, but I would love for it to work especially now. You know I have talked to my bf about the children arguing and that I couldn't take it but he seems to think nothing is wrong and a lot of times thinks its my son.just recently he corrected my son and I was pissed because it was an accident not an intentional act that happened and nothing was even wrong with his kid. I do seem ignorant but I want my child to be in a safe happy environment and loved and sometimes I don't feel thats the case.
Thanks for your advice. I
Thanks for your advice. I should have never got pregnant, but it was not something I planned on happening.
I am so sorry! I was/am still
I am so sorry! I was/am still in that situation. I found myself pregnant four years ago with a man whose daughter I could not stand (still can't). I finally gave in and we moved in together two weeks before I gave birth. I only did this because he threatened that I would have to share custody of my newborn child. Literally, he expected me to give birth, spend my two days in the hospital and then hand the baby over to him for "his" days. The thought of him and his daughter alone with my child TERRIFIED me. It still terrifies me, which I am still here. SD8 doesn't throw fits but she is incredibly snotty, entitled, lazy, physically aggressive with my kids and NASTY (picking nose, eating her findings, doing offensive things with the family remote, everything in her mouth, digging holes in the couch with her toes) just incredibly offensive to be around. I really could go on for days listing all the reasons I don't want her around my children, but I won't. The absolute worse part is that SO does not ever notice. She will do all these things while she sits next to him on the couch. He thinks I am the evil one for thinking there is anything wrong with the things she does.
I really don't have any advice for you. I decided to stay with SO because I can't imagine SD8 being around my child unsupervised (since SO thinks nothing SD8 does is wrong). But everyday SD8 is here, which is everyday, is horrible.
If you think you could, with out a doubt win 100% custody of the unborn baby, that is definitely the route I would take.