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MY MOTHER is spoiling the skids

Madam Hedgehog's picture

I am about to blow up.

I have told my mother five hundred times that the boys have to eat normal food. They cannot eat chocolate cake and f*ckn candy all day.

Well, I just busted her giving them chocolate cake for lunch.

She tells me the pieces are small.

I tell her I don't care.

I retreat to stop myself from screaming at her in front of the kids.

But maybe I shouldn't. Maybe I should blow up on her in front of the kids. Maybe I just let it fly.

I know this is how she raised my brother and me. We ate cheeseburgers and oreos and junk food all day every day. We were sick all the time. My brother had 12 cavities by the age of ten.

This is NOT what DH wants for the boys. It's not what I want for the boys.

She doesn't care. She wants to eat cake and candy all day. She comes to our house to hide her eating habits from my father. Then she doesn't want to eat crap in front of the boys and feel guilty, so then she gives them crap food to make herself feel better about it.

Every week.

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Madam Hedgehog's picture

I'm on the verge of telling her she can't feed them anything at all.

I have told her on multiple occassions that she can't give them junk food. She stops for a couple days, and then she's back at it again.

I am so sick of her interfering. I finally asked DH to talk to her because they are officially his kids and she can't tell him that her decisions for the kids override his decisions.

Madam Hedgehog's picture

I have gotten this advice from several people at this point and I think you are totally right. every time i talk to her about it in a reasonable way she acts like i am being mean and unreasonable. if her talk with dh does not make a difference then i think i will have to keep her away from the boys until she can change her behavior. dh is totally behind me so at least i have that.

Ommy's picture

funny story....so we were all at a family party a while ago and FSD3 was acting up and would eat her dinner, she saw the pies and cookies and want that so FDH told her that if she had dinner then she could have some pie....well she didn't eat. So I told my mom who loves to spoil them no to give her any sweets, FDH's orders....well and hour later she sits down in front of fdh and I and she gives FSD3 a big piece of peanut butter pie. FDH being the smart ass he is screams she is allergic to peanut butter my mom freaks slaps the fork out of FSD3 hand and she just keeps saying I am so sorry over and over. FDH busted up laughing and says well next time you will ask wont you. It was the best revenge to take on an over bearing "grandma" my mom still cant believe he did that.